i’m a grown man, i am not chasing a woman. i pursue women who make it clear the interest is mutual. chasing way too close to begging & that’s just not in my bag.
It was 8 PM on a Friday, and my partner was dead asleep on the living room sofa, still in his work clothes.
I was on FaceTime with a friend who was getting ready for a massive night out. She asked what my weekend plans were, and I flipped the camera to show him resting.
She sighed, doing her makeup. “Girl, doesn't it bother you? You’re young, it's Friday, and you're just watching a man sleep. You deserve the princess treatment. If he really wanted to take you out and show you off, he would.”
I looked at him. I looked at the dark circles under his eyes and the laptop still open on the coffee table.
What my friend didn’t see was that earlier that week, he had quietly taken over two of my biggest bills so I could afford to take a lower-paying job that I actually loved. He had been pulling 14-hour days for months, absorbing all the financial pressure so I could finally breathe.
I didn’t argue with her. I just calmly said,
“He is giving me the soft life. The soft life is me waking up without panic because he goes to war every single day. I’m not going to punish him for returning from that war exhausted.”
The line got quiet. I told her to have fun, hung up, and draped a blanket over him.
The internet has completely warped our idea of what love looks like. It has convinced women that "princess treatment" means endless aesthetic dates, constant entertainment, and a partner who operates with infinite energy.
But a man cannot simultaneously be in the trenches securing your absolute safety, and have the carefree energy of a guy with zero responsibilities.
I realized that night: The ultimate luxury isn't a man who takes you out to be seen. It’s a man who makes your life so incredibly secure that fiercely protecting his rest becomes your biggest priority.
I miss the days when “TAXES” used to be a surprise!!
-Your momma filed her taxes then went about her life. A random Wednesday, she at work, then BOOM, “a deposit of $8,672!!” She might leave work an hour or two early. Go take some cash out. Go handle a few adult/mommy duties while we still in school. Go home, constantly wait on us to get back from school so she can eagerly, but calmly tell them “go put your stuff down and get dressed, we leaving!!”
Then you’ll be like “where we going ma?” Then she slick pull her lil envelope out, shuffling through them 100’s, giving you a lil hint that that BAG on her 😂 then you see it & start asking “Oouu ma, you got your taxes!?” And the momma always reply “don’t worry bout it!! You must not want them shoes!?! Cause I’m leaving!!” (Knowing she not gone leave us😂)
then you & your siblings pile up in that car and yall go store to store. Then end the day eating out as a family. Then go home & look through all your new stuff like you just seeing it, while your momma in the living room, cleanining up, music playing and redecorating her house🥰
I miss them days mane!! SIMPLE!!! 🥹
10 Things @KillerMike Would Do As President
- Create A Reparations Plan
- Take Debt Out Of College
- Forgive All College Debt
- Public Schools Return To Greatness
- Return Trades To High Schools
- State Colleges More Accessible
- Support Older People (Make Retirement Age Earlier)
- Make Pathway To Legal Citizenship Easier
- Bilingual Classes Early
- Guarantee Minority Businesses Get Federal Grants