One of the things kink taught me is that surrender and dependence aren't the same thing.
A submissive can surrender and still be independent.
A Dominant can take control and still need support.
The healthiest dynamics aren't built on one person carrying everything.
They're built on trust.
The trust that you can have needs.
The trust that you can communicate them.
The trust that someone can help carry part of the weight without taking away your autonomy.
Because support and control aren't the same thing.
For some people, that's far more confronting than any rope, collar, or command could ever be.