You need boredom. A lot of it. Start by going on walks without music. No stimulation. No distractions of any kind. If you learn to sit with your own thoughts, for long enough, in time they will start serving you. You'll start having ideas once again. You'll start developing an extreme sense of clarity that will shift you into the next stage of your life. All by being bored, which is pretty insane.
I don’t have the language for this yet, but cerebrally, I know that how much I allow myself show interest in someone romantically depends a great deal on how consistently intense they’ve made it clear that they’re interested in me. Definitely not an initiator, do not care to be.
The only reason why this is carrying weight and he is remorseful is because the victim is a perfect victim(dead). If she survived, he would never beg, he would claim they were lovers. He will come to court to laugh at her. He will say things like na fck I fck I no kill person.
the female body for some reason has tons of mechanisms to gain weight unrelated to consumption, the male body on the other hand has virtually none, meaning if you're fat as a man its entirely your own fault you hungry hungry hippo
@veeiye Forgiveness is a manipulation tool. That person knew what he or she was doing, they were vividly aware and still did it so why should I or you forgive them?
i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you