kocak
yang berantem cowok sama cewek, kenapa ceweknya kabur dari masalah (ngeblok) tapi cowoknya yang disuruh inisiatif buat fix everything????
hubungan itu dua arah, kalau mau menang sendiri mending main game battle royale aja sana
Uncomfortable Truths About Family No One Admits:
-Not every PARENT knows how to love the right way.
- SIBLINGS can become strangers faster than friends do.
-SILENCE at the dinner table often hides years of tension.
-Some RELATIVES only show up when they need something.
-The "BLACK SHEEP" is usually the one breaking toxic cycles.
-Your FAMILY shapes your start, but you choose ending.
-FORGIVENESS doesn't always mean reconnection
ACCORDING TO PSYCHOLOGY, an adult child's decision to limit contact with their family is rarely a sudden impulse; it is the natural consequence of repeated, ignored boundaries. Families often view the estrangement as a sudden betrayal or an act of modern selfishness. In reality, it is a slow, agonizing process where the child spent years trying to be heard, respected, or safely loved, and finally realized that the only way to save their own mental health was to stop attending the dynamic that was breaking them.
I think women need to start asking men when they experienced their first heartbreak.
For most men, that first lesson comes during their teenage years, not adulthood. Long before they became “players,” “bad boys,” or emotionally unavailable men, they were teenage boys learning painful lessons about relationships.
A lot of those men started out as hopeless romantics with genuine intentions. They believed in love, loyalty, and commitment.
Then reality hit. Rejection, betrayal, being led on, being cheated on, being replaced, being broke shamed or watching their feelings get taken for granted.
That’s why it’s dumb when women analyze men’s behavior only from adulthood onward.
Nobody is born cynical. Nobody is born guarded. Those attitudes usually develop through experience.
So before asking why men are less trusting, less romantic, or more self-focused today, it might be worth asking what experiences made them that way in the first place.
Don’t just judge the final version of the man. Look at the journey that created him.
Jadikan ini motivasi sih!!
Abang ini berasal dari keluarga sederhana tapi bisa punya pasangan yang cantik dan peduli.
Bahkan mbak2 ini sampai ngasih surprise ulang tahun, sangat jarang cewe melakukan ini.
Kak...? Ini MUHAMMADIYAH 🙏😭 menurutku sangat wajar mereka menentang hal ini loh?????? 🙏😭 Universitas berbasis agama islam, di dalam islam kan menentang... jd sangat wajar. 🥲🙏 ga semua hal yg kamu inginkan bisa diterima kak apalagi kalau udh agama.
Psychology says some people avoid socializing not because they hate people, but because they can read them too well. They walk into a room and immediately sense the fake laughs, the hidden agendas, the performances. Their nervous system doesn't misread the signal, it just refuses to ignore it. Small talk feels like a tax they didn't agree to pay. Forced smiles cost them energy that takes hours to recover. They're not broken. They're calibrated differently. They don't avoid people. They avoid emotional labor that leads nowhere. When they do connect, it's deep, intentional, real. No masks. No games. Fewer friends doesn't mean loneliness. It means higher standards. That's not antisocial behavior. That's emotional intelligence.
If you found this relatable, this account is for you.
Namanya Yasika Aulia Ramadhani. Usia 20 tahun. Pembina Yayasan Yasika Group.
Di usia yang kebanyakan orang masih mikirin skripsi, dia udah mengelola 41 dapur MBG yang tersebar di Makassar, Parepare, Gowa, dan Bone.
Inspiratif banget. Tapi tunggu dulu.
Aturan BGN: maksimal 10 dapur per yayasan, per provinsi.
Cara Yasika punya 41: daftar lewat beberapa yayasan berbeda-beda. BGN-nya sendiri yang ngaku ke publik:
"Tahunya itu dari cerita orang. Yang kami baca cuma dokumen."
Jadi sistem dilangkahi , dan yang melangkahi bukan sembarang orang.
Ayahnya: Yasir Machmud. Wakil Ketua DPRD Sulawesi Selatan. Partai Gerindra.
Fungsi utama DPRD: mengawasi penggunaan anggaran publik.
Program MBG dibiayai Rp 335 triliun anggaran negara , dari pajak lo, dari pajak gue.
Trus anak Wakil Ketua DPRD mengelola 41 dapur dari program yang seharusnya diawasi oleh ayahnya sendiri.
Saat wartawan tanya ke Ketua Badan Kehormatan DPRD Sulsel soal konflik kepentingan ini:
"Aduh, saya tidak bisa berkomentar soal itu."
Saat wartawan coba konfirmasi ke Yasir dan Yasika: tidak direspons.
Kolom komentar Instagram keduanya langsung ditutup.
Dan BGN bilang tidak bisa menghentikan 41 dapur itu karena:
"Kasihan anak-anak yang sudah terima manfaat."
Bukan tuduhan.
Ini fakta yang sudah dikonfirmasi BGN sendiri, diliput Liputan6, Tempo, Kompas , dan diinvestigasi ICW, yang menemukan 102 yayasan mitra MBG di 38 provinsi terafiliasi politisi, militer, dan polisi.
Gerindra: partai paling banyak afiliasinya dengan 7 yayasan.
Program ini katanya untuk anak-anak kurang gizi.
Pertanyaannya sederhana: siapa yang paling bergizi dari program ini?
Dating a 30+ man is actually annoying.
Lo bilang, "udah, tinggalin gue aja."
Dalam kepala lo: "Coba bujuk dikit kek, kejar dikit kek, kasih effort dikit kek."
Dalam kepala dia: "Oke. Noted. Gue ada kerjaan, tagihan, dan asam lambung yang harus diurus."
Terus dia beneran pergi.
Bukan karena dia nggak peduli. Justru karena di umur segitu banyak cowo udah capek main tebak-tebakan.
Kalau bilang pergi ya pergi. Kalau mau ngomong sesuatu ya ngomong.
Mereka udah melewati fase jadi cenayang hubungan.
Dulu mungkin dia bakal ngejar.
Sekarang?
"Oke, hati-hati di jalan ya."
Lalu menghilang sambil buka Excel, cek saldo, atau tidur jam 9 malam demi kesehatan.
Kadang yang berubah bukan rasa sukanya, tapi toleransinya terhadap drama yang udah turun drastis.
Umur 30+ bikin seseorang sadar bahwa komunikasi itu lebih murah daripada overthinking.
Jadi kalau bilang "tinggalin gue", pastikan itu bukan ujian.
Karena yang udah dewasa biasanya nggak lagi ikut tes yang nggak pernah dia daftar.
Pertanyaan serius:
Kalian tim yang kalau dibilang "pergi" tetap ngejar, atau tim yang langsung jawab "siap, terima kasih atas informasinya" lalu menghilang dari peredaran? 😆
Psychology says some people avoid socializing not because they hate people, but because they can read them too well. They walk into a room and immediately sense the fake laughs, the hidden agendas, the performances. Their nervous system doesn't misread the signal, it just refuses to ignore it. Small talk feels like a tax they didn't agree to pay. Forced smiles cost them energy that takes hours to recover. They're not broken. They're calibrated differently. They don't avoid people. They avoid emotional labor that leads nowhere. When they do connect, it's deep, intentional, real. No masks. No games. Fewer friends doesn't mean loneliness. It means higher standards. That's not antisocial behavior. That's emotional intelligence.