How to become a high value man by end of 2025.
Before December comes, this thread will guide you to prepare yourself in identifying your values, prioritising them in a hierarchical structure, orient yourself on a path of least resistance and start making sacrifices to obtain them, transforming you into a man of value.
Write down your values.
For a man, your apex value should be abundance.
You must attain it, or at least be on a path that will lead to its attainment.
If you are too distracted in your pursuit of women and indulgences, stop reading here.
What does it mean to attain your apex value on a path of least resistance?
It means you will orient yourself in a strategic manner that will lessen as many obstacles in your way of attaining your value.
Your choices & time allocation will be devoted to this value.
This means to count your moves.
To make moves in the form of sacrifices, strictly related to your apex value.
Moves that negotiate with the future and force your apex value to come to you.
Count each one, & stay on the path.
You will achieve abundance in two ways;
1. Leverage Competence
2. Begin your own start up
To leverage competence, you will first need to take stock of your current job description, pinpoint what you’re expected to do & what you get paid for.
Then, you will seek to deliver your job description at an exceptional level.
You will leave no room for negligence or incompetence.
You will not worry about recognition, and aim to perfect what you are required to do.
When ready, you will leverage your perfection, to uptake more responsibility+authority, not money.
You will negotiate that you currently do ABC for X amount,
but you are willing to do ABCDE for 2 months, and if you deliver, you will rightfully request positional ascendency.
When you become exceptional in your line of work, you create specific-knowledge-like asymmetry.
Any asymmetry you create in your favour, can be leveraged.
Exchange the value you generate easily, for the value you want.
When I worked as a pharmacist, I dispensed at 30 seconds per medication, when others took 10min.
I leveraged this to reduce staff, then leveraged to implement systems for cost efficiency, which made me a manager, & leveraged for corporate.
Study the scenario, find the leverage.
While you exercise this, you will record, print weekly reports of every sale, every profit, every satisfied customer under your name and construct an impeccable CV.
So when the bosses don’t play nice, you can leverage this as a threat.
If you are successful in your promotion, repeat the process. Find leverage in your new found responsibilities.
You are not pursuing more money.
You are pursuing more responsibility and authority.
Money will come after.
Leverage competence for positional power.
Your competence in your job should be part of the system.
You do not want your competence to self-automate in your absence.
You want to become so good at what you do, that the business falls apart without you.
Generate reliance to cement your leverage. Avoid redundancy.
Option 2 is start up. If you want to start your own business, in my opinion it is a brutal path to take.
Have a stable job before taking the risk in going for a startup. You must maintain a stable income stream for this option.
You are not an entrepreneur if you are not making weekly progress.
If you want to start your own business, you must have a clear deadline for weekly action & progress.
Investors check progress, worth ethic & personality before investing.
Your journey to abundance will kill off so many undesirable parts of you, that you will inevitably transform who you are.
You’ll be forced to become strategic, think ahead, be cunning and ambitious.
A force to contend with.
If you don’t become disagreeable in your quest for abundance, you are not devoting enough time for your apex value:
-you come first
-competitive
-less social
-assertive
-insubordinate
-value driven
-time conscious
unconcerned for anything petty & frivolous.
These qualities developed as a side effect in your path to abundance, are the traits that make you attractive.
Combine this with your capacity to provide, your accountability & competence, it makes you a high value man.
Your aim before December
1. Acknowledge apex value as abundance
2. Pinpoint the position you are seeking.
3. Pinpoint your path towards it
4. Pinpoint your job description
4. Write down how to excel in it
5. Plan on how you’ll leverage it once excelled
By 2024, you should have improved your current position and developed,
-Responsibility
-Confidence
-Authority
-Credibility
-Leadership
-Disagreeableness
Don’t stop. You’re set to dominate 2024.
The lesson in this article is to understand leverage.
When you become exceptionally competent in one domain,
you can leverage it on the dominance hierarchy and ultimately increase your value.
This lesson can be applied to many contexts.
People will sometimes reject an exceptional idea because accepting it requires acknowledging the superiority of its source. You will especially experience this pan out in institutions, cooperations or academia. You will witness your ideas being rejected just because you are low on status totem pole. The merit of the insight was never the real issue, it is carrier of the message.
A reputation for generosity is a liability because it eventually attracts people who are interested only in exploiting the said generous nature. A reputation for intelligence is a liability because it makes others constantly demand solutions outside of your expertise. A reputation for being ruthless because it limits people from steering opportunities your way. Every admired quality creates expectations. and expectations eventually create obligations.
Do women instinctively try and aid whoever they think is going to win a fight in hopes the winners treat her better afterward?
It’s so consistent there must be some sort of hardwired explanation
The better you are at what you do, the more lenient people around you get. If you can produce exceptional results, you are allowed to break rules the average people aren’t.
Easy to nod along to this. Harder question: when did you last thank the person who told you that you were wrong. Most of us say we want honest friends. Then we quietly stop calling the ones who are.
Never surround yourself with agreeable people who parrot your ideas back to you. The more you win in life, the more likely people around are going to substitute honesty with flattery. Just to be on good terms with you, they will reinforce your assumptions, flatter your delusions, validate your mistakes, inflate your ego and gradually convince you of your infallibility. These kind of people are not your friends. True friendships is having people who care enough to contradict even if it costs them their friendship.
Success changes your relationship with reality, you must actively make an effort to stay in touch with reality or it makes you delusion. In the beginning, you listen carefully because you cannot afford to be wrong. You study the competition, question assumption, stay vigilant, and stay open to criticism and suggestions. Once you win, you begin to use our past wins as a sign of superiority. You dismiss criticism, surround yourself with agreeable people, give up reiteration and adaptation, eventually propelling towards downfall.
Pay attention to how people handle small amounts of power. That is the true judgement of their character. Making grand declarations of principles or being kind is easy when reputation is at stake. The most discerning evidence of character about a person is presented in situations too insignificant for the person to bother managing his image.
To understand psychology of status: notice how frequently people compete over things they do not genuinely enjoy. They indulge in possessions they can't afford, pursue titles attached to authority they dislike, and most importantly - form relationships based on associations that improve their public image and discard those that don't.
According to game theory: Often times the most reliable person doesn't have the strongest moral convictions, but the one who's future interests make betrayal irrational. In business, partners may admire you yet abandon the arrangement when they sense a higher payoff somewhere else. However, someone may have little personal admiration for you but cooperate because your success is intertwined to his own. Make cooperation contingent on payoffs not emotional feelings.
I have said this multiple times, your friends are your friends until and unless you are one the same level or a level below them, as such most people are not your friends, merely acquaintances brought together by similar circumstances. The number of people who can truly be considered your friends can be counted on a single hand.
Two kinds of students crack IITs
1. So effortlessly brilliant, they put Ramanujan to shame.
2. So hard-working, they put donkeys to shame.
I used to be a fanboy of type 1 when I was preparing.
Now, after 10 years of graduating from IIT, I see the second type a lot more successful
An old friend of mine, his dad is worth over $100 million.
Built it buying distressed land in the 80s and 90s, then developing apartments in what later became boom suburbs.
He’s in his 80s now. Young wife, waterfront mansions, yacht worth over $10 million, 100’s of investment properties.
His son (guy I know) is still a manager at a small business. Leaves at 5:30am, gets home after 7 some nights, barely sees his kids, still grinding a mortgage.
Growing up, the dad used the kids and other family to get loans if he was short on capital, false payslips, dodgy documents, kickbacks to bank managers and real estate agents to get distressed assets below market rate.
The kids helped him raise capital for the deals. When the assets later exploded in value 20 years later, he closed the business, sold off the contracts, and pushed the kids into normal jobs when he retired.
When my mate asked why he didn’t get more of a share or a chance to take over the company, his dad said:
“You’ll have to wait until I die. I don’t trust any of you with this much money. I helped you get a house. The rest you’ll inherit when I’m gone.”
Some old wealthy guys build something and hand the next generation a real shot to make it bigger.
Others treat their kids like temporary labour or capital sources, then keep everything to themselves until they die.
I can’t understand why so many boomers and old wealthy people do this to their kids.
Such a sad existence.
All I want to do is be successful to help my own family.
Nothing else matters.
People who hoard wealth until death have no soul.
Understand what people are afraid to lose. To ally with them, help them protect what they fear losing. To control them, threaten what they fear losing. People reveal their priorities through the sacrifices they are willing to make to protect them. If you understand their vulnerabilities and what they consider irreplaceable, many of their confusing decisions become predictable. Human nature makes a lot more sense when you understand the loss they are trying to prevent than the rewards they state to pursue.
There are people in your life who become influential or powerful without possessing any exceptional talent, you should study their ability to manage expectations. You will find out they are masters at managing expectations, helping them appear grander they are: rarely promising more than they can deliver, refuse unnecessary obligations, and have a deep understanding that people judge performance relative to their anticipations. You don't want to be a person who constantly advertise exceptional ability because it creates a standard that becomes increasingly difficult to satisfy.
One of the greatest advantage of studying human nature is not just being capable of manipulation, but developing the ability to recognize the invisible motives that shape your decision and understand incentives that shape people's decision. You understand when competition is disguising envy. When aligned incentives is disguised as loyalty. Most people experience these impulses as unquestionable truths because they never examine where the feelings originate. Self-knowledge creates a distance between emotion and action
It is stupid to build a life around the assumption that people closest to you understand your ambitions. Familiarity gives people access to your history, and not offer them any insight in your future. They know and like the old version of you. The version of you that needed permission, shared their limitations, and was equally on the same level as them. When you set on a path of growth, your priorities change, your success is interpreted as arrogance or rejection. Sometimes the people you know the longest are first to disregard your successes.
It's actually a man who thinks he's highly intelligent, self-proclaimed, but isn't particularly intelligent. The most intelligent people are as comfortable in social settings as they are in isolation. Once in a while, they walk into a room and own it.
Others don't understand ur perception? Fine. But what kind of intelligence fails to comprehend other people's perceptions? That's stupidity masquerading as intelligence.
When u talk to a dog, you talk like a dog, u speak it's language. It's that simple. Nothing an intelligent person should struggle to understand.
I graduated from a very prestigious college of this country, surrounded by rich and spoiled kids (to an extent I am one myself)
I assure you, modafinil is fairly common. Ritalin and adderall is not.
The real stack is a pack of cigarettes, coffee and modafinil.
Wealthy kids take ritalin & aderall before exams in the west. I have heard even in Mumbai. They zap ADHD & create hyperfocus for half a day. Aderall is descended from amphetamine family “meth”. It energizes you, Hitler’s panzer crews would take it
Modafinil is mostly for wakefulness, given to military pilots