Update your partner always. It's not a rule, It's a love language Your partner shouldn't guess where you are. They shouldn't wonder what you're doing. Updating them is not control. It's love. It says, "You matter. I want you to know."
Date people who like you for you.. not financially, not sexually, like genuinely like you as the person.. that eliminate a lot of extra, unnecessary shit..
things are changing, life moves too fast, loss will take a huge part of you & force you to rebuild all over again. you won't recognise yourself & you'll cry like a child, because you're always a child despite it all. and it's hard, and it's not sweet, and it's okay to admit that.