My girl best friend told her boyfriend something that lowkey changed how I see relationships.
She said, “I don’t want obedience. I want consideration. I shouldn’t have to beg you to think about how your actions affect me.”
She told him, “You’re allowed to have friends. You’re allowed to go out. You’re allowed to live your life. But if you constantly put yourself in situations that you know would hurt me, that’s not freedom. That’s you choosing yourself over us.”
Then she said something that hit:
“If I have to keep explaining why something disrespects me, it’s not confusion. It’s comfort. You’re comfortable knowing I’ll stay.”
And whew.
She wasn’t yelling. She wasn’t threatening to leave. She was calm. Grounded. Clear.
She told him, “I won’t control you. But I will control what I tolerate. And if I start feeling small in a relationship that’s supposed to feel safe, I’ll remove myself. Not to punish you. To protect me.”
That’s what emotional maturity sounds like.
Not “do what I say.”
But “I see the red flag. I told you it’s red. If you keep walking past it, I’m not dragging you back.”
@sibumabena KF is a small self-funded brand that operates on made-to-order because they don’t have enough capacity to mass produce and also. OS on the other hand, is a family owned brand with the backing of corporate SA therefore they have enough capital to mass produce
30 500 people came to Toytota stadium to see a rapper from Mafikeng!!!! These are the moments I dreamt about and prayed for. Thank you so much to everyone who bought tickets and travelled to be part of history !!! Thank you all my sponsors!!!! #FillUpToyotaStadium
There’s more to the groove than just GROOVE!
God bless you and everyone involved in making this event happen @BridgeBossTLee ❤️🚀😮💨 whilst it is for the benefit of the ticket holders because the enjoyment will be plenty, the people who benefit the most are the suppliers, the community and the artists and all the people they employ.
May you never grow weary of this labor of love.
Billiato All White party was beautiful! If you ask me best one since we started… team charged up & off to Thaba Nchu for 26Dec #WeBackHome24 then Maseru Lesotho 28Dec #SesothoFashioneng
𝗡𝟯 𝗦𝗻𝗼𝘄 | In case this doesn't make it on TV because chances are it won't, this is what Estcourt Municipality (eMtshezi) and it's Mayor did for the people who were stuck on the N3 since Friday.
They set up the hall, provided food, coffee, snacks and water for those who could walk or drive. They took food to truck drivers because they couldn't leave the trucks.
Humanity in all its form. ✨️👍🏼
Come (PH)OLA with us in Bloem on Sunday 8 October 2023 at the Free State Botanical Gardens for the ultimate day time lifestyle party featuring your favourite entertainers. Link on bio 4 general tickets and VIP tables available on +27 79 478 5017
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