Nicola Foster

My ex bf Nigel Robinson was controlling & mentally abusive towards me for 5 years. His previous gf Aggy had left him because of his controlling ways.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

A thread on my life with my abusive ex boyfriend. From the outset, he dictated he would see me only on a Wednesday and at the weekend. I was not allowed to contact him on the other days of the week. I tried telephoning him on a Tuesday evening once, he put me straight.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

Only a family of Narcissists puts notice of the death of a loved one in the paper FOUR times 🙄

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

Wow, the Narc Ex made a scene if I wore make up, made me stop seeing a male friend and hated that I went out with friends clubbing. This guy was a total Narc and control freak too. I’m so sorry it ended this way for her and her family. RIP 🙏🏼 https://t.co/5PuIT814u6

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

You did this Narc Ex.

[Narcissist Facts 101 @narcissistfacts]

Narcissists will abuse and mistreat people then discard them and claim that they are “protecting their peace“ by cutting them off, when in reality they are merely avoiding accountability.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

Truth.

[Narcissist Facts 101 @narcissistfacts]

Narcissists expect you to sacrifice all of your wants and needs for the sake of theirs. They expect you to neglect your relationships and responsibilities in exchange for absolutely nothing but resentment and criticism, then accuse you of not caring about them if you refuse.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

It’s like you know my ex personally.

[Narcissist Facts 101 @narcissistfacts]

The narcissist truly believes that the world revolves around them and they will never have any genuine concern for anyone else’s wellbeing beyond what someone might be able to provide for them.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

Exactly so.

[Narcissist Facts 101 @narcissistfacts]

Narcissists do not recognize others as actual individuals who exist outside of their own selfish wants and needs, and they understand that they do this but they don’t care and will never change. To them, people are just things to be used and discarded.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

Spot on.

[Narcissist Facts 101 @narcissistfacts]

Narcissists will cause you so much stress that you get pushed into survival mode and only left with enough mental stamina to just get by, making it impossible for you to function properly. Then they harass and belittle you for not being able to fulfill daily tasks and meet goals.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

Don’t I know it.

[Narcissistic Abuse Awareness @AwareOfTheNarc]

A narcissist's love is conditional, transactional, and ultimately hollow.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@JacklenaB Ooh he would be so furious when I stood up to him. I would back down in the end of course but at least I made it difficult for him a bit! He would get so mad that I challenged him at all.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 I wasn’t even allowed to have a home with him. I had to live apart from him. Yet he still controlled me. Shame on me.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 😂

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 Yes. And shes still being a doormat. I hope she realises soon and doesn’t waste her life away 😔

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 God, do some therapists say to do this!?

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 I did try for five years but it was a waste of time and energy.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@NicoleAnicca So it would seem 😔

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 Same! I would stand up for myself at first but then I would lose confidence and back down. But at least I did make his control over me easy. I glad you managed to realise enough was enough. I did not and I was just dumped for a final fine. Shame on me for not getting out myself.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 I constantly drove him crazy by standing up to him. But then I would back down. This was the cycle. But at least I made things difficult for him for the whole time we were together. I didn't just take it lying down.

[Tell me no Lies 💔❤️‍🩹➡️❤️🥰🌹💪🏻🚫Narcissists🚫 @lovewins11011]

When you’re with a narcissist, every conversation about your feelings becomes an argument.

[Nicola Foster @UsedAndAbused74]

@lovewins11011 Ha! But I know a lot of ChristIans like this. It’s an absolute joke. I also know a lot of atheists who are absolutely golden.