If someone chooses to keep their personal life private, that should be respected whether they are alive or deceased. It’s about honoring their legacy on their terms, not ours. Fame and public interest don't override dignity and right to privacy.
Why they said no.
#Dishonorarium – If your proposed “honorarium” didn't cover prep time, transportation, lodging, and emotional bandwidth, it’s not an honor. It’s a hustle in disguise. #Speakerfees
Why it didn’t sit right:
Asking someone to give free emotional labor or relive trauma for your content or ticketed event? That’s exploitation. #HonorTheirWorth