Confessions and realities
42M, 55LPA
I am a 42-year-old man with a senior job in IT. I have a house in Chennai, a supportive wife, and two children. On paper, everything about my life looks perfect. I have achieved all the things society says a man should achieve.
In my twenties, life felt different. I had friends to spend time with. We would hang out at Marina Beach and Besant Nagar beach, watch movies at Rohini, Udayam, and Kasi theatres, and ride around Mount Road on my RX100.
In my thirties, I had colleagues to talk with over tea breaks. We would discuss apartments, onsite trips, and share random stories about life and work.
But now, in my forties, life has turned into a quiet routine. My phone rarely rings for anything personal. Most calls are about office work, bank alerts, or someone from home asking me to pick up milk on the way back.
The loneliness of a man in his forties is unusual. I am not physically alone, but I often feel like a machine.
When I enter my home, I am simply “Appa.” I am the person who pays school fees, fixes the Wi-Fi, and handles repairs. My wife is busy with her work and the kids. My children are teenagers now, living in their own worlds and their own rooms. They love me, but they mostly see me as the person who provides comfort and stability. They no longer see me as an individual.
At the office, I am the senior person. I am expected to have all the answers. I cannot tell my team that I feel tired. I cannot tell my boss that I sometimes struggle to keep up with new technologies. I must appear confident and strong, even when I quietly worry about the future.
Sometimes I drive home slowly from work just to spend a few extra minutes in the car. I listen to songs from my college days.
For those fifteen minutes, I am not a manager or a father. I am simply myself again.
I realize that I have not had a real conversation about my feelings with anyone in years.
My old friends now exist mostly as names on WhatsApp. We send “Happy Birthday” or “Congratulations” messages, but rarely talk. When we meet at weddings, our conversations revolve around our children’s grades or the cars we drive. We never talk about what we actually feel.
The hardest part is that I cannot even complain. If I tell my family that I feel lonely, they look confused and say, “But we are all here with you.”
They do not understand that a person can be surrounded by people and still feel like they are on a desert island.
Society teaches men that if they provide money and security, they have succeeded in life.
But no one teaches us how to deal with the silence that comes with it.
I have built a beautiful life for everyone around me, but sometimes it feels like there is no space left for me inside it.
And maybe… this is what life in your forties feels like.
🚨Nvidia leases 7.6 lakh sft in Bangalore!
Nvidia Graphics Private Limited has leased a massive office space at Bagmane Capital – Memphis South Tower, Mahadevpura, Bangalore, adding to a long list of large scale deals in the city.
With a total rental commitment of approx. ₹1,230 Crore over the next decade, Nvidia is signaling that Bangalore will be a primary engine for its global R&D and semiconductor growth.
Leasing a large contiguous space spread across 12 floors enables Nvidia to scale operations efficiently while maintaining operational synergy. Such large-format deals strengthens Bangalore’s position as a leading hub for global tech companies and GCCs.
Key Deal Highlights
📍 Location: Bagmane Capital – Memphis South Tower, Mahadevpura, Bangalore
📐 Chargeable Area: 7,60,000 sft
⏳ Tenure: 10 years (15% escalation every 3 years)
💰 Monthly Rent: Rs. 8.59 Cr (Rs. 113/sft)
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ANNOUNCING the world's longest group footpath walk - the New Year's Day 26KM Footpath Walk on Jan 1, 2026!
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“Everyone wants to win — until they realize how many losses it takes.”
October has been one of the toughest months for me (and likely for some of you), especially when comparing LoD stops based sizing swing traders vs. % stops based sizing position traders. I’ve had 16 straight losses — but each one was small, contained, and the streak was fully within the expected variance range of a 30% win rate.
While it can be challenging for some of us, the key to navigating this, both mentally and emotionally, lies in accepting uncertainty through predefined risk management, where every trade has a clearly defined pain threshold. Your dollar-value tolerance should never trigger emotional reactions or push you off your intended plan. By acknowledging that losses are part of the process, we enter each trade with humility — assuming we may be wrong until proven right. The market must prove and continue to prove the validity of our thesis.
Start small, and let your risk grow only as your consistency and performance justify it. I always advocate using a fixed % risk relative to your latest net realized equity. Don’t increase risk just because you’ve had a few good trades — risk should only expand when it’s truly earned from realized profitable performance.
Avoid the illusion that everyone wins in trading. The real objective is not just to make gains, but to preserve them. True risk management goes far beyond setting stop losses — it means being proactive enough to cut size when the market proves you wrong. In the end, the trader who manages losses best will always outlast the rest.
“The best loser is the long-term winner.” - Phantom of the Pit
@mukeshchauhan Beauty of Technical analysis - it undercuts and bounce or it respects the lower trend line and bounce back. Either way it’s an absolutely beautiful chart.