Just imagined Rivers United of Port Harcourt beat BendelInsurance of Benin in the last minute and the goal scorer hit this celebration in front of a sold out stadium ๐
"You are free to mock me, but learn from my mistake. Live your life, do you hear?" โ Former Lagos big girl Mandykiss says as she returns to her mother's shop in Ijebu to start all over.
WHY A MAN MUST LOOK AT HIS FIANCรE'S MOTHER BEFORE HE CHOOSES A WIFE:
Young man,
Before you marry a woman, don't just study her beauty.
Study her mother.
There is a reason our fathers paid attention to the women in a family long before they approved a marriage.
Experience taught them what romance could not.
Many people think marriage is the union of two individuals.
It is not.
Marriage is the meeting point of values, habits, beliefs, temperaments, and family cultures.
You are not only marrying a woman.
You are marrying the environment that shaped her.
Now, I am not saying every daughter becomes her mother.
No.
But every daughter carries traces of the woman who raised her.
Some traces are visible immediately.
Others emerge years into marriage.
Observe how her mother speaks to her husband.
Observe how she handles disagreements.
Observe how she responds to stress.
Observe her attitude toward respect, responsibility, and accountability.
Because when life becomes difficult, people often return to what they learned at home.
A beautiful face can hide an unhealthy family culture.
Many men investigate a woman's past but never investigate the home that produced her.
That is like inspecting a fruit while ignoring the tree.
The tree matters.
When you visit her family, don't focus on how they treat guests.
Anybody can perform for visitors.
Pay attention to what happens when everyone becomes comfortable.
That is where truth lives.
Watch the women she admires.
Watch the women she imitates.
Watch the women she constantly defends.
People naturally move toward the examples they celebrate.
Look at her mother's relationship with accountability.
Some people are never wrong.
Nothing is ever their fault.
Everyone else becomes the problem.
A child raised in such an environment may unconsciously adopt the same habits.
Observe her mother's attitude toward money.
Some families see money as a tool to build.
Others see it as a weapon to control.
Marriage eventually reveals which culture a person comes from.
Another thing.
Watch how her mother treats people beneath her social status.
The waiter.
The cleaner.
The security guard.
The struggling relative.
Character is often hidden from equals but exposed toward subordinates.
A wise man doesn't only ask:
"Do I love her?"
He also asks:
"What kind of environment produced her thinking?"
Because love can make a man blind.
Marriage has a way of restoring sight.
The purpose of studying her mother is not to judge or condemn.
It is to understand.
You are looking for patterns.
You are looking for strengths, weaknesses, values, and family culture.
Because every family passes something down.
Some pass down wisdom.
Some pass down discipline.
Some pass down loyalty.
Some pass down emotional stability.
Some pass down chaos.
The inheritance is not always financial.
And before anyone gets offended, the same principle applies in reverse.
A woman should also study the father of the man she intends to get married to.
Many sons eventually reveal the lessons they absorbed from the men they watched growing up.
Marriage is not won by finding a perfect spouse.
There are none.
Marriage is won by understanding the patterns attached to the person you choose.
A blind man marries an individual.
A wise man studies the lineage.
So before you choose a wife, don't only ask about beauty, education, or compatibility.
Ask yourself:
"What kind of woman raised this woman?"
That single question has saved many people from years of regret.
The elders understood something this generation often forgets:
Courtship reveals the person. Family reveals the future.
End.
@DanielRegha Imagine!!!
Don't you know that empty drink cans are one of the leading tools used in making IEDs around Nigeria.
Fix up and don't be a passive contributor to insecurity
@the_smallie This is why its important to have a system that allow local players grow into the senior national team they understand sometimes it's more than the game.
@the_smallie This is why its important to have a system that allow local players grow into the senior national team they understand sometimes it's more than the game.
@SimplyUtd@NathSalt1 He's chosen to take the job backing his employers all through the transfer window
He's not innocent ... Without overlooking the fact that he's made very poor tactical decisions so far this season