Vicki H.

Wife, mom, grandmother, service dog handler, NRA Life Member, former RN, Conservative-Libertarian, and weather nut. I’m just trying to live well until I die!

[Ryan Hamilton @TheRyanHamilton]

My heart is broken💔: As friends & family know, my wife was pregnant with our 2nd child, & about to begin her 2nd trimester. A few days ago she had severe pains, & bleeding, and had to go to the emergency room. There, it was discovered that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Devastated doesn't come close to what that feels like.
Unfortunately for people like us, because of the current laws in the state of Texas, that was only the beginning of this nightmare. Jess (my wife) had an "incomplete miscarriage", and what needed to happen, what was best for HER, and her health, was to terminate the pregnancy, and get the baby out.
The doctor gave her a medication that would move this process along, and sent her home. Where, apparently we would be handling it ourselves. We were told it might take a couple of attempts before it worked.
I'll let you decide how you feel about that.
After a long, painful night of the equivalent of early labor, the baby was still with her. So, we went back to the Emergency Center to get the 2nd dose. A new doctor was on call. He was an older man. You could hear him in the hallway as he said, "I'm not giving her a pill so she can go home and have an ab*rtion!". Being well aware that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Then, he came into the room to say, and I quote: "Considering the current stance. I'm not going to prescribe you this pill". Then, just sent us on our way.
The "CURRENT STANCE"?! Did he really just say that?!
No one should ever have to hear their wife say: "Get this dead baby out of me!".
Can you even imagine how that must feel?
The pain, and the bleeding continued. So, we decided to go to another hospital, about an hour away. There was a female doctor on call there, and we thought we might have better luck.
I should probably mention, the procedure to get the baby out is called a D & C. It's scary, & traumatizing, but sometimes necessary in situations like ours. Especially in emergency circumstances.
So we get to the next hospital. They take Jess in, ask her a bunch of questions, do a new scan... confirm that the baby is still there, with no heartbeat, and then disappear... for hours. Only to come back in and keep asking the same questions over and over. It's becoming clear that they're primary concern is NOT my wife's health. Instead, they seem to be worried about the legalities involved.
So, they decide it is not "enough of an emergency" to perform the D & C.
They do, however, prescribe another, stronger, final dose of the medication for us to try again... at home.
So, we go home to try again. Another long day/night of early labor pains. Only to discover my wife UNCONSCIOUS in the bathroom. Having to pick my wife's cold, limp body off of that bathroom floor, not sure if I was about to lose her, is something I will NEVER forget.
She had to be rushed to the hospital.
By this point she had lost so much blood, and bodily fluid, her body gave out.
They were able to stabilize her, give her the fluids she needed, and we came back home yesterday afternoon. We were also able to confirm that our baby was no longer with her.
Now, not only do we have to live with the loss of our baby... we have to live with the nightmare of what we just experienced because of political and religious beliefs. MY WIFE'S HEALTH SHOULD HAVE COME FIRST. PERIOD!
God knows what mental and emotional damage this has done.
If you consider yourself a staunch "pro-lifer" ... 1) You've never been through what we just went through, and 2) You should take a long, hard look in the mirror and reevaluate your reasons for supporting such a cold, barbaric, ignorant point of view.
It's not that black & white, and it's never going to be.
If you think your "Pray To End Ab*rtion" sign in your yard is "Christian", I suggest you revisit the teachings of Jesus and try again. If you support these laws that make ab*rtion illegal, and result in people being put through what we just were, you should be ashamed of yourself. I've never been so angry, or heartbroken... and the devastation I'm feeling must pale in comparison to what my poor wife is feeling.

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

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[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

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[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

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[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

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[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

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[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

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[Jon Cooper 🇺🇸 @joncoopertweets]

Last week, Ron DeSantis signed legislation into law requiring transgender people to use public restrooms that align with their assigned sex at birth.

The six trans men shown below were all assigned female at birth. I’m wondering if DeSantis REALLY thinks it makes sense for them to use the women’s restroom — and what Republican women in Florida would think about that.

If you ask me, anti-trans Republicans haven’t thought this out fully. Who agrees? 🧵👇

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

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[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

@Sparky0627 @AuroraPD Actually, I’d be happy if they were able to stop speeding in the school zone outside my house. Two schools and a third just over a mile away. I’d rather nobody die.

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

@dobayala @AuroraPD They already say there’ll be signs so you know they’re ahead…

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

@BBCBreaking I’m sure he’s very concerned. Probably going on the run as I type this.

[MDJ | Danielle Jones, MD, FACOG @MamaDoctorJones]

The comments under this are unhinged. Anyone not understanding the absolute despair that would be @FedEx LOSING breastmilk has never breastfed or supported someone who was.

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

As someone who really didn’t think about #ElonMusk one way or the other for 50 years, it sure hasn’t taken me long to decide I’m not a fan. I’m afraid the bird is going to die.

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

@MamaDoctorJones I’m really sorry for your loss. Grandparents are so special. On a completely unrelated note, you can let your followers know that, unlike you, I believe the flu is no threat at all. They can come attack me now.

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

I don’t care WHICH party you belong to. Keep your filthy fingers in your own pockets! This crap has got to stop, from the presidency to the pulpit! Good grief!!!! Ugh! “Sexual harassment lawsuit against Collin County DA - The Dallas Morning News” https://t.co/ZJ6R4mNutc

[CNN @CNN]

Elon Musk has indicated the Twitter account of former President Donald Trump will not be restored ahead of the US midterm elections next week https://t.co/JmpW38XvcP

[Vicki H. @Vicki5280]

@chim0m @APLMom I’m less disturbed knowing that it’s his granddaughter, tbh. Some families did that. Mine did. I didn’t w my kids, but w my parents & grands, yes. Nbd.