Victoria

God's delight 👸
Food Scientist 👩‍🍳

[Vicson @degogetteer]

"PREGNANCY OPENED MY EYES TO HOW DEEPLY PATRIARCHY HAS FAILED NIGERIAN WOMEN. 😫💔

Four pregnancies. Four beautiful children. Three in Nigeria and one abroad.

I was present throughout all four journeys. During the three pregnancies in Nigeria, I attended virtually every antenatal appointment with my wife. Every scan. Every test. Every check-up. I was there. I was also present at the hospital for the birth of all my children. In fact, all four babies were handed to me almost immediately after their mother carried them after delivery. But that is not even where I am going with this.

During those antenatal visits in Nigeria, I would see countless pregnant women looking exhausted, hungry, stressed and worn out. Some would arrive with babies less than a year old strapped to their backs while carrying another pregnancy. And almost every single time, I would be the only man there supporting his wife. The only man.

Every time we got home, I would ask my wife the same question "Where are the husbands of these women? Is this really how women are treated in the hands of this God-forsaken men?" 😫

I was born and bred in Nigeria, nobody teaches all this things. I read and learnt it myself and I understand the fact that a woman should never go through pregnancy alone.

Then I moved abroad. And my eyes opened even wider. During my wife's last pregnancy, despite working full-time, I never missed a single hospital appointment. Not one. And whenever we arrived, the waiting rooms were full of husbands supporting their wives. Men taking notes. Men asking questions. Men carrying bags. Men holding hands. Men showing up. That was when I realized something. Maybe I was not the normal one in Nigeria. Maybe that was why I always looked odd. Because what I was doing abroad was normal. What I was doing in Nigeria was treated like I was doing something extraordinary.

That was when I truly understood how deeply patriarchy has damaged Nigerian men and, by extension, their wives.

Nigerian men, stop this nonsense. Pregnancy was created by both of you. You may never fully understand what these women are going through physically, emotionally and mentally, but the least you can do is support them with your presence. And please, don't ever compare pregnancy to you going to work.

Look at the picture of my wife during our last pregnancy. Look at her tummy. Look at what her body had to go through just to bring another human being into this world. And you dare compare that to any work in the world? Are you mad or something? 😫

After everything pregnancy does to a woman's body, some of you still call women fat. Some of you still call women lazy. Some of you still call women cranky. Some of you still complain about stretch marks. Haaa. 😫 Every time I looked at my wife during those final months, I was genuinely afraid for her. The physical sacrifice alone was enormous. The discomfort. The sleepless nights. The body changes. The risks.

Men, respect these women. Give them their flowers every single day. They deserve far more than a simple thank you. And as for me, I still tell my wife thank you. Thank you for risking your life four different times for our family. Thank you for carrying our children. Thank you for enduring what I could never endure. Thank you for doing something that neither I, my father, my grandfather nor any man who will ever live can do.

African men wake up from your slumber. Women deserve more than gratitude.

They deserve respects"

[Fakwol @Fakwol]

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[Victoria @Victoriaoluwaj]

Amazing
We learn everyday

[Joshua Mike-Bamiloye @jay_mikee]

You mean “Goodbye” came from the word “God Be With You” ?!

So “goodbye” is a contraction from the 16th century phrase “God be with ye” and was says so often till it became “Good-b’wye” then “goodbwye “ then finally “goodbye”.

My Christian mind… Blown.

[Viral Gospel @viralgospelhq]

This is my favorite song on the album because of the memory it carries. I recorded it with my late wife - Minister Dunsin Oyekan

[Dunsin Oyekan of #Geni @DunsinOyekan]

No sleep tonight!!!

We drink irresponsibly!!!

#NewWineTheAlbum

[Instablog9ja @instablog9ja]

That “30 days has September…” song still dey save lives till today

[The Winlos @thewinlos]

Don't let past hurts blind you to the “good thing” in front of you. Be broken enough to heal and let go, that's the only way to move forward and be free again.

[Dunsin Oyekan of #Geni @DunsinOyekan]

Great News friends!!! Tell everyone to tell everyone!

The Spirit of God is doing a new work on the earth!!!

Kindly spread the news!

[The Winlos @thewinlos]

Compatibility doesn't save a marriage, commitment does.

You can be "perfect for each other" and still fall apart.
You can be "opposites" and build something unshakeable.

Stop looking for the right person.
Start becoming the right partner.👂

[AEO @anendlessocean_]

Please listen to my latest single today 😋https://t.co/Vz82Py37sy

[The journey of A Christian lady @ThejourneyofACL]

The Holy Spirit is not only for speaking in tongues. He should help you bridle your tongue, work on your character, soften your heart, and humble you enough to apologize when you’re wrong. The work of the Holy Spirit in your life should start from within💛

[Oriaku Worldwide @workof_Godd]

I’m a fertile ground, nothing dies in my hands and everything I lay my hands on prospers.

[First Lady of ď BUJ🤍 @Patience_Uchech]

i high key want to be the girl that knows a lot about a lot of things.
the urge to be disgustingly educated and knowledgeable >>>

[Victoria @Victoriaoluwaj]

So accurate 🤣

[folagade banks Mama Deola @folagade_banks]

A very hectic day mehn!!😩🤣

[Godswill Oyor @GodswillOyor]

Say this with me:

Dear God,

David stained his hands and Peter broke his word, yet mercy did not resign them from destiny. Father, where I fractured trust through immaturity, please restore and reintroduce me to my assignment.

Where I squandered sacred opportunities through inconsistency, clothe me again with discipline, depth, and the dignity of stewardship.

Baba, na you dey restore fallen kings and recommission trembling apostles and you're also the author of my story.

So please don't let my misjudgment mutate into permanent limitation. Let your mercy interrupt what pride & foolishness almost destroyed.

Thank you sir.
Amen

[Nathaniel Bassey @nathanielblow]

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[We hold a Hand @weholdahand]

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[We hold a Hand @weholdahand]

Mental health healing doesn’t always look like happiness or progress you can post online.

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[Victoria @Victoriaoluwaj]

This is so cuteee🥹

[Oxygist @oxygist]

She pretended to sound upset on the phone to see how her kids would react— what do you think about their reaction? 🫵🏾🥹❤️

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