A Nigerian guy asked me if I could help him get a job or at least point him towards places where he could work. I asked him to meet me at the gym, so I’d get off early, and we could talk afterwards.
When he arrived, I showed him a random pavement where visitors could sit for the time being while I found the owner and asked if he could come in. I could see that his ego was bruised. He murmured something about getting money so that he could be allowed into “anywhere.” But that wasn’t all.
I got off early as promised and we walked around. Along the way, he kept asking how much I earned to be able to afford gyms. He made stupid remarks about how I could be related to Elon Musk for being able to spend money easily. It was as though he had forgotten that I didn’t know him, that he needed a job, and that I had voluntarily offered to help him. Instead, his tone seemed to reveal that given what he perceived as my “flex” I am in a great position to “assist” him—which meant giving him money.
This idiot.
As I showed him around, I noticed how resentful he looked. As though other people were somehow evil for enjoying their lives while he was suffering. At some point, he shared something he had gone through—which, unknown to him, I had experienced myself. I then remarked that carrying one’s pain so visibly on one’s face and shoulders is counterintuitive to getting opportunities and building the relationships that might eventually relieve you of that pain.
That upset him. He redirected his resentment towards me. After all, I’m the soft-spoken, baby-faced guy who can afford to use gyms. What could I possibly know about pain?
I kept quiet and chuckled, mostly to ease the air. Like most entitled fools, he somehow thought it was acceptable to be rude to me while simultaneously demanding that I assist him.
But it got me thinking about two things:
1. How many people hold onto their pain not because they have extracted lessons from it that might shape or develop them, but because the pain has become familiar—and because it gives them a sense of strength or superiority over the average person. Some sort of survivor complex.
2. How many unintelligent decisions are driven less by an actual inability to think and more by low self-esteem and the instinctive need to protect one’s ego.
Fascinating.
And this is where the poisonous money-centric culture among Nigerians becomes particularly troubling. You eventually realise that “show me the way” often means, “I want to have what you have, even if I have no idea what to do with it,” rather than, “I admire the mindset that got you there and want to understand how I can cultivate it myself.”
Not like there's need for all that at once (especially if running solo), serious overlap exists with 2-3 of those pretty much doing the same thing.
Still logical with a team or at exploration stage.
how rich are people in tech bro.
there’s no way you’re running SuperGrok Heavy, ChatGPT Pro, Claude Max 20x, Cursor Ultra, Kimi Vivace and Meta one premium all at the same time.
that’s like a total of $1100+/mo 💀
I’ve realised that a good number of you are not looking for lovers, you have a script in your head and you’re looking for an actor to come and play that role!
A guy SHOT HIS SHOT with Rubi Rose and had her BLUSHING as he was helping her with her helmet while she was spotted on vacation with Arsenal star William Saliba 😭🔥👀