I will never reconcile with anyone who deliberately went out their way to sabotage or hurt me in anyway. This can be family, friends, associates, whoever. Once you show me who you are, I can't unsee it.
Sometimes you gotta remind people... I was already chosen before you arrived. Already blessed. Already building. You was an addition to the frequency, not the source of it.
There is a documented phenomenon in
CPTSD research called "betrayal trauma theory," developed by psychologist Jennifer Freyd. It proposes that trauma caused by people on whom the victim depends for survival produces a specific kind of cognitive adaptation. The child cannot afford to know what is being done to them because knowing would threaten the attachment they require to survive. So the knowing gets blocked. Not as a choice. As a survival mechanism.
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Men aren’t hot and cold if they genuinely like you.
Men are hot and cold if they are trying to manipulate you.
This is predatory behavior. If he goes cold on you, don’t let him love bomb and come back.
He doesn’t like you or he wouldn’t be trying to manipulate you.
Especially men. Avoidants but they don't avoid sex. Emotionally unavailable but very available for sexual relations😂You would think that would be the highest form of intimacy that requires vulnerability, but no, only avoidance when it's time to mind their partners needs..Bye pls
Getting yo shit together requires a deep level of honesty with yourself, you gotta be able to look at yourself in the mirror & be willing to accept flaws & behavior that's not allowing you to grow , self evaluation is difficult but it's extremely necessary.
unlearn shame. all forms of shame: unemployment, illness, vulnerability, longing, desire, errors, failures. you do not need to feel ashamed of what you are experiencing or living. freedom and shame cannot coexist.