This thing is simple. Not all VaTsonga (Non-Nguni) are Shangaan (Nguni).
To be safe, just call ALL of them VaTsonga because many Tsonga tribes in South Africa were never conquered by Soshangana Nxumalo/Manunkosi. He conquered some, then assimilated them.
We heard Nandi loud and clear. Her point was that Black men deserve grace because the system crushes them hardest: no money, no government support, 400 years of stacked odds, and constant pressure to succeed.
Our point is this: that same system hits Black women just as hard, often harder. Patriarchy. Single motherhood. Unpaid care work. Higher poverty rates. Sky high GBV risks but when women survive those exact conditions through informal hustles or sex work just to feed their families, they are shamed. Insulted. Called slurs. Told they have no dignity.
So men deserve grace for trying, but women are humiliated for trying to survive? You cannot demand grace from women while denying it to them in the same breath. That is selective empathy.
Grace is not a one way demand from women to men. It has to be mutual. Otherwise it is just another burden placed on the group that is already carrying the most.
Unfortunately, not everyone will be bold enough to tell you they no longer vibe with you. Sometimes you just have to read the room, subtract yourself from the equation, and never disturb them again.
I am pro breakup. Cause it’s really not that hard to be a good partner, I’m not going to have the same conversations over and over again. We talk about it….i see effort….effort turns into an actions and we move on. If not , I’m out. Simple!
I hate when I think I'm Close to a friend and then I look up and I'm not invited to the parties, functions, graduations, etc. Or you see your friends posting their friends and you're not included... y'all so weird and this is why i stay to myself.
Dear ladies never forget that: The same world that shames me for being a single mother also shames you for not being a mother and shames another woman for having too many children..lt shames one woman for having a child at the age of 19 because she's too young but also shames another for having at 36 because she's too old..lt shames a woman who marries young as well as the one who marries old..It shames women who don't have beautiful bodies and shames those who go under the knife to get the bodies. This world shames all women, not a single one of us is spared, not a single one. So love and make yourselves happy.
Kind Reminder:
Please make sure that you have the following:
1. Funeral Cover (If you can afford, get a life cover too)
2. Medical Aid
3. GAP Cover ( I know most of us can't afford it BUT it's very very very important that you get one)
4. Legal Protection ( I'm using the FNB one but there are so many products in the market) 😄 I have Bongani Dee Tshepang Mtshepidor Monyemorathoe on standby
If you have enough funds, add the following:
5. Emegency fund (Especially when you are a parent)
6. Retirement Fund ( Contribution outside your normal pension fund)
We really need to be a better generation, let's be more prepared and retire stress free.
When you gather with your friends, talk about these things, share experiences and advise each other. 🤣 ha gona motho o go loyang, wa go felletsa o patela more for such things because you don't want to share your experiences.
Last but not least, don't OVER insure and make sure you check brokers when taking policies.
Have a productive Wednesday and make sure you talk about your experiences ❤
Modimo le Badimo ba lo sireletse! Puula 🌧
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