To everyone so eager to cancel someone for a tattoo they got at age 22, a drunk text, a selfie they took in the middle of a mental health crisis:
Show us your laptop.
Show us your iCloud.
Open your entire digital life to your worst enemy. No context. No filter. No explanation.
You won’t.
You won’t because you know what I know. Any one of us, frozen at our worst moment, photographed in our lowest hour, looks like a monster. Looks like a stranger. Looks like someone who deserves to be cast out.
That is not who we are.
My mom and baby sister were killed in a car accident when I was just a kid. Cancer took my brother Beau, my best friend and my rock. I battled alcoholism. I battled addiction. I chose the coward’s way out more times than I can count.
For years I believed the defining chapters of my life were written by tragedy, loss, and shame.
I no longer believe that.
Pain can shape us. Loss can humble us. Failures can leave scars that never fully fade. But none of them have the authority to define us.
And it sure as hell ain’t the critic that counts.
That authority belongs to us alone-the person in the arena.
Every setback presents a choice. Play the victim, or cut the bullshit and take ownership for who we become next.
Life does not determine our character. It reveals it.
Again and again we are asked the same question. When shit happens, what next?
We are not defined by what happened to us. We are not defined by the worst photo, the worst text, the worst tattoo, the worst night. We are defined by the person we choose to become. And by the courage to choose that person, every single day.
So before you reach for the gavel - show us your laptop.
You won’t.
The whole world saw mine. And I am still here. Still becoming. Still choosing. Still standing.
That is the only definition that matters.
@aliciaandrz I feel that way about Syvia Plath. The way she made certain that her children were safely buttoned up prior to her demise. The thought she put into it. I think about it a lot. Please stay safe. 💜
America is back fighting a war we already won because Iran shot down an Apache helicopter with a military we already destroyed, and it's all over nukes they never had and a strait that was wide open.
Is that about right?
@thisisnefertiti I like pockets because sometimes I want to take something out of my handbag and just tuck it in the pocket for easy access. NO, pockets don't replace purses. They are just handy because. If that is the thing annoying you when the fucking world is on fire, you are just precious.
@RonFilipkowski He doesn't care a lickity shit about the game. His sole purpose is to fuck with New Yorkers and make things inconvenient for their brilliant mayor.
@AZ_Brittney If you haven't yet, do yourself a favor and watch Hunter's interview with Channel 5's Andrew Callaghan. It is lengthy but it is honest, raw, and brilliant.