🇫🇷 Four years ago, Maja Chwalińska was battling depression so severe she could barely get out of bed.
Last week, the 24-year-old arrived in Paris ranked No. 114 in the world, with no sponsors, no guaranteed income, and uncertainty over how she would even pay for her hotel room.
She fought through three qualifying matches just to enter the French Open, then stunned the tennis world with nine straight victories to reach the final.
Now she is guaranteed at least $1.6 million, with $3.25 million awaiting if she wins the title.
A week ago she was worrying about a hotel bill. Today, she is living proof that fairy tales sometimes do come true.
i've lived exactly the same life for 6 years while working for Citibank in São Paulo
(except that I went to the gym 6am, taking pre-workout caffeine at 9pm is really dumb)
back then, it kinda felt like winning, because everyone around you is also living the same life, so they become your best comparison basis
your colleagues show up in a nice car, live in cool flat, and chat about their European vacations in a fancy hotel
but only when you quit that world, you are able to understand what the Fight Club movie was all about
@FernandoKobuti Pensei que estava assistindo algum vídeo de blogueira do TikTok, mas era marmanjo comentando prato de comida e postando brinde recebido de reunião fechada em banco.
You dont want a yacht. You dont want a big house. You dont want a super car, a $40,000 watch, or shoes you worry about getting dirty. You want free will.
You want to wake up naturally on a Tuesday and you want to go to bed when you’re done having fun. You want to say yes to everything that excites you without having to request time off. You want to go to the the gym at noon, in absolutely no hurry. You want to spend 18 hours a day doing what you love. You want to be exactly where you desire being, always. You want to spend as much time with the people you care about as possible.
You’re saying you wanna be rich? In what?
a thought only becomes powerful when you believe it. the moment you stop believing every negative thought in your head is the moment your life starts getting lighter. your mind will tell you all kinds of things when you’re trying to grow. that you’re not good enough, that you’re behind, that you’ll fail, that nobody believes in you but let me remind you. your mind is not always telling you the truth. “fear speaks the loudest right before you’re about to change your life.”
that voice in your head knows all your insecurities, all your weak spots, all the pain you carry. it knows exactly what to say to make you doubt yourself again.but you have to take a stand. you have to say you know what, NO i am not buying into this, that's bullshit. This isn't true. A thought has no power, you have the power.. that’s the secret. thoughts by themselves are nothing. they pass through your mind like clouds passing through the sky. you are the one giving them meaning. you are the one handing them power. the moment you stop buying into every negative story your mind creates, everything starts changing. protect your energy. protect your belief in yourself. not every thought deserves your attention. not every fear deserves your trust. sometimes the strongest thing you can do is look at the chaos in your mind and say “no. i don’t believe you anymore.”
one of the most refreshing things on the planet is talking to someone who just *gets it*.
like you don’t need a preamble, & you don’t need to articulate the shape of the thought before you can share it cuz they just meet you where you already are. as if they skimmed your mind & married to the culture before you say a single word.
these people are rare, & conversations with them are incredible because you skip the surface layer entirely & land in the depth almost immediately. they’re the best ppl to riff with, ideate with, & think forward with.. the bandwidth is wide & already open.
this is true for any type of relationship.
probably one of the reasons why people engage in self sabotage is a desire to return to a state where you possess nothing and are nothing, and therefore nothing can be expected of you... like a return to childhood
Freud dizia que a gente não repete escolhas porque gostamos de sofrer, a repetição existe porque o inconsciente tenta, desesperadamente, criar um final diferente pra mesma história.
most people don’t realize how absurdly rare real connection is… how fragile, contingent, & wildly improbable it is to genuinely click with another human.
this is actually what makes it quite beautiful.
I watched a toddler drop her ice cream in the parking lot yesterday.
Full meltdown.
Her dad didn't rush to fix it. Didn't offer solutions.
He just sat down on the hot asphalt next to her and said, "That really sucks, doesn't it?"
They sat there together for a full minute. She was crying. He was sad with her.
Then she took his hand and said, "Can we go home now?"
I've been thinking about it all day.
Maybe the best thing you can offer someone isn't a solution, just your presence.
Psychedelic mushrooms containing psilocybin may help ease depression by promoting neuroplasticity in the brain.
Research shows that psilocybin can increase the growth of dendritic spines, which are often lost due to chronic stress.
These new neural connections may strengthen communication in mood-related brain regions.
Clinical use of psilocybin has also been linked to lasting reductions in depressive symptoms after just one or two sessions.
A study from Yale School of Medicine specifically found that psilocybin boosted both the number and size of neural connections.
Every country has an energy. And that energy rewires you whether you notice it or not. People move to Japan and become minimal. People move to Mexico and their entire relationship with time softens. People move to New York and suddenly they can't sit still. Your personality is far more malleable than you think. We treat it like something fixed, but new surroundings give you new defaults. New pace. New habits. New values absorbed through proximity instead of effort. You're not just the average of the 5 people closest to you. You're the average of the 5 places, the 5 routines, and the 5 inputs you're exposed to most. Your commute shapes you. The weather shapes you. Every space you occupy is voting on who you become. That's why I believe choosing where you live is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. More important than your job title. Maybe more important than your five-year plan. Because the place shapes the plan. The place shapes your energy, your habits, your relationships, your default state. Get the place right and half of the other decisions start making themselves. Get it wrong and you'll fight yourself every day.