Yall I HATED and scrutinized the size of various parts of my body in every one of these photos at the time and if that doesn't tell you about societal standards and pressures, I don't know what will.
People with anxiety often REWATCH the same TV shows because the predictability helps us REGULATE our nervous system. When we already know the outcome, there’s no risk of unexpected stressors. This reduces cognitive load and provides a sense of control, and safety. Familiar stories can be a calming in a world that is a LOT. What’s your GO-TO show? XO, Dr. Jen
Pretending to be okay feels more tiring than actually being sad. Because sadness is natural. Pretending is a performance. And performances are exhausting.
Stuck in a weird spiral wondering how different things would be if my dad was still alive.... Grief is so weird. It literally just comes out of nowhere and hits you like a truck some nights
I ACTUALLY JUST HEARD SOMEONE SAY, “MAYBE YOU DON’T NEED MORE TIME TO HEAL, MAYBE YOU NEED MORE EXPERIENCES THAT SHOW YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM A DIFFERENT REALITY,” AND NGL… IT ECHOED IN ME
no one talks about how draining it is when your mood constantly switches between "keep going, it will get better" and "i can't do this anymore, im about to give up." it's like living in emotional whiplash. one hour you're hopeful, the next you're spiraling
Don’t avoid screen as night if you have trauma or nighttime anxiety. Screens can distract you from your thoughts and be a way of self soothing. Without them, it can be harder to actually fall asleep.
Adjusting to the new person you have become due to grief or extreme trauma can take years and you are typically very fragile within those years too. Have to constantly remind yourself and give yourself grace about the process