being neurodivergent is WILD because you can be deeply intelligent, deeply creative, and deeply capable..and still be unable to answer a simple email for 3 fucking days.
The autistic urge to use the most precise word possible for clarity, only for people to maliciously misinterpret you because it’s a word that was common 500 years ago
A neurodivergent person with a 1pm appointment cannot do anything before the appointment. cannot start a task. cannot eat. cannot focus. cannot relax. the entire morning belongs to the 1pm. and we will still be 4 minutes late.
I'm sorry I am a traditional woman when it comes to certain things.....i firmly believe that a man is supposed to chase the woman, court her, spoil her, love her more.... anything outside of that is weird.
To the people concerned with the increase of autism diagnoses, have you heard of all the adult women being diagnosed with ADHD in recent years? Between 2020 and 2022, ADHD diagnoses nearly doubled in women aged 30 to 49 years old. I was one of them.
Why? Because we were ignored as children.
Are you the ADHD who became really good at planning ahead because your brain made you worried? Or are you the ADHD who procrastinated until you became VERY good at improvising.
does anyone else with adhd have this problem where they think ALL DAY EVERY DAY about doing your work but SOMEHOW you go the entire day without doing ANYTHING at fucking all so you LITERALLY END UP BEING BURNT OUT AFTER DOING NOTHING
Imagine how many people I'd annoy if I pointed out that a lot of gym bros are undiagnosed autistic and using exercise to stim without the social expectation to speak or make eye contact, as part of a predictable routine informed by special interest level research
A lot of avoidants don't realize they're avoidant because they don't struggle at the beginning of relationships. The beginning is exciting. The real challenge usually appears when consistency, expectations, and vulnerability start becoming part of the relationship.
An avoidant discard is nothing like a normal breakup. It is a sudden and total withdrawal of connection. Going through that kind of abrupt ending is one of the most traumatizing things a person can experience.
I feel like neurotypicals don't understand that (auditory) sensory overload isn't always related to loudness, but is more often the complexity of noise. Like for me it's the worst when lots of people talk at the same time over each other, that's like my biggest trigger
One thing I've noticed about avoidants is that they're often completely fine with intimacy in small doses. A deep conversation. A great date. A vulnerable moment. What overwhelms them isn't always the closeness itself. It's the realization that the closeness might continue tomorrow, next week, next month, and suddenly become something they have to maintain.