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The anger on this post is mainly because they hoped the ex-wife will post something like this before he did.
I don't get the pain behind a single man moving on.
Youre right and I'll tell you why because I can.
Given the circumstances of his marriage, they expect him to be miserable - as per Nollywood.
They hate that he seemed to cover all bases - prenup, marriage, divorce + custody, removal of his ex as dependant, exoneration from DV claims and he is unapologetically loud.
They don't care about whatever circumstances surrounded the marriage or dissolution just hate the fact that "a cheating gurl took an L".
They hate that they can't troll him for his looks, career, pockets or his ability to pull 10s as he pleases + he is young. So why not zoom in, on his nostrils.
Was he doing too much publicly at some point? Relatively yes.
But I can rationally charge it to two possible factors:
1. He was genuinely also deeply affected by the way the marriage turned out & the repeated public crashout + need for some kind of validation was a necessary step to putting it behind,
2. When a situation puts you on the spotlight for the very first time, a lot of people don't know how to leverage on the overwhelming first round of applause & hang it there - they stretch it until the balance tilts.
These are my honest assessments.
Do these assessments justify the vitriol he's getting from women currently? No.
He seems to be doing well and they hate his guts.
The honest-to-god truth might be that - he might not be doing that well emotionally but he has refused to allow weakness be his public identity and doesn't conform to their definition of "humble".
@Justwandyy If the person they cheated with was better or even worth it and was ready to claim them trust me the cheater will post first or was she not posting about living her best life and going on โgirls tripโ while the whole issue was going on?๐
You see proximity?
Yes, proximity. That's all it takes for your wife or girlfriend to do something contrary to your marital vows or promises. And vice versa.
While factors like status and looks compel attraction, proximity operationalises it. It sets it in motion.
In proximity, conversations happen. Gestures are made. Assistance is rendered. Compliments flow. Familiarity grows. And with this, what once existed as a mere inkling magnifies into feeling and desire.
This is why your girlfriend gets into the university and suddenly becomes "busy" all the time. She is crushing on someone, talking to someone with whom she now shares proximity.
Because attraction is not destiny. It is simply two people, in the same place, at the same time, finding each other sufficiently safe to risk vulnerability. Human beings are always looking to take that risk. Emotion merely supplies the excuse.
But what is the message in all of this?
The message is simple and straightforward: principles are easy when proximity is absent.
"I trust my woman."
"I don't check my woman's phone."
"She can have as many male friends as she likes."
These convictions are often made in the comfort of distance, before life introduces that co-worker, classmate, business partner, a neighbour, gym instructor, or the FRIENDLY superior at Work.
The real threat to a relationship is rarely attraction in isolation. Attraction is common. Proximity is what gives attraction the opportunity to negotiate with conscience.
This is why wise men do not merely manage feelings; they manage circumstances.
Because loyalty is easier maintained at a distance than it is tested in constant proximity.
Check that f*cking phone early enough. Tell her you see her conversation with a particular colleague and it's too personal. Look for the signs. And make your warnings early.
But then, I have said enough.
Good luck. Or, congratulations.
Back in 2024 twitter, A married man sent a babe here 500k for looking pretty, The babe posted screenshots of the DMs and covered the guyโs name, but twitter detectives still fished out the simpโฆ..it went viral, his wife saw the post and divorced him.๐คฃ๐คฃ
Na female Muslims dey muzz me pass, if by some crazy chance this sharia get implemented and itโs used to coerce other people to become Muslims, I; a male Muslim convert would still have more right than you, Iโd be regarded as more human than you ever was and ever will be ๐
"she doesnโt know her husbandโs best soupโ = such non issue.
โhe does that know his babeโs best colourโ = that's a serious red flag
God sees all.