Narcissists do not have the ability to look inward. They do not see anything wrong in what they do. They only place blame on your reaction. They believe every argument is caused by you because to them, there was no problem with their actions until you reacted to them.
They 100% believe you are the problem and they are the casualties.
Because self-awareness is something they simply don't possess. They can't examine their behaviour objectively.
They can't ask themselves "Did I do something wrong?"
They can't take responsibility.
The USS Liberty conspiracy theory asks you to accept that Israel, a nation of 2.5 million people fighting for its literal survival on six fronts simultaneously against 110 million Arabs equipped with Soviet tanks, Soviet aircraft, and Soviet warships, and with no formal American alliance, no American weapons, and no guarantee that anyone was coming to save them, is chose day four of that existential war to deliberately attack the one country on earth that might eventually become their ally, in broad daylight, in international waters, leaving 174 survivors who could identify the attacking forces, while fourteen separate investigations across two governments found zero evidence of intent, while Israel’s own military had accidentally bombed its own armored column the day before proving how catastrophically identification fails in wartime chaos, and while not a single one of the conspiracy theory’s proponents in nearly six decades of trying has ever managed to agree on what Israel was actually trying to accomplish by doing it.
Heavy lift.
How many of the 300+ State Department employees trained during the peak Qatari-influence years at Georgetown are currently writing the cables, conducting the negotiations, and making the recommendations that determine whether the United States treats Iran’s proxy network as an existential threat or a political challenge to be managed?
So don’t measure an apology by how emotional it sounds. Measure it by what happens afterward.
Because the only apology that truly matters is changed behaviour. And that’s the one a narcissist struggles the most to fake.
6 VERY STRANGE BEHAVIORS OF NARCISSISTS
A thread 🧵👇
• Walking ahead of you to show dominance and control, never partnership
• Jealous of their own children, they crave attention so deeply that even their child's success feels like competition
• Ruining special occasions, birthdays, weddings, or holidays somehow become about their drama.
One of the most difficult roles in a highly dysfunctional family is being the person who refuses to pretend.
The truth teller is often the one who notices unhealthy patterns, speaks up about harmful behaviour, and refuses to participate in the family’s version of reality.
@PAcumbria Sometimes they say they are sorry, but that is just strategy to get you back under their good graces. it is not genuine. They don't think they id anything wrong and will never do better in the future.
You cannot get a narcissist to genuinely apologize because a genuine apology requires three things they don't have.
Accountability.
Empathy.
The ability to sit with shame.