I have wrestled with one unbearable contradiction: Protestant (especially Reformed) teaching says “This is life or death — heaven or hell!” Yet it treats ANY real action, obedience, or fruit with deep suspicion. At the heart of it (whether admitted or not) is the idea that only what you believe in your head matters. Put another way, nothing REAL can be important. And community is barely on the radar. If suffering together in the discipline of real hardship bonds us, we have never been more fragmented in our comfort. That’s a church with a form of godliness but denying its power. I cannot live in that dissonance anymore. #Orthodoxy #FaithAndWorks
“Why do you seek the living among the dead? He is not here, but is risen!" - Luke 24: 5-6
Today might just be another holiday to you.
Perhaps you do not believe in Jesus.
Maybe you stand in opposition to Him.
But...
Here is the incredible thing:
He still died and rose for you because He loved you and me.
Jesus paid our debt on the cross so that we might receive the free gift of salvation and He rose again so that we might be a new creation.
"if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation." - Romans 10: 9-10
Resurrection Sunday (Easter) is not just a holiday.
It is the most important day in history.
@MonicaMAlmaguer This might be OK, but could also be a sign that she views it as duty. Right? Men don't mind fast as long as there is the potential for slow and more connection at other times.
@MonicaMAlmaguer This is ridiculous. I have had people in my family get dementia, and it is too much for one person. They need constant care. It is hellish. Also, when they get to that point, the person they were is already dead. The important thing is that they are safe and comfortable.
@GiaMMacool@Matt_Pinner Agreed. I have never seen any that didn't detract from the woman's beauty. And in this video, it looks more like a style/ fashion statement. Imagine having a shirt that you can't swap out though! What is she gets tired of that style?
The hang-ups in church on this subject seem like a psi-op to depopulate (opposite of "be fruitful and multiply"), break up families, traumatize children with divorce, and enslave men (and women) to cheap counterfeits, teaching people only sin can be "fun." This is evil. Keep up the good work!
I watched this all the way through. Some good info there, but I dislike how they always assume the man is the emotionally distant one shutting down and the woman is pursuing. It is very common that the woman is shut down and the man is saying, "hey wat's up, can we work on this?"
Lust in the compulsive needy or selfish sense is not good. Just keep in mind the church throws the word "lust" around like a synonym for eros. Having attraction and physical desire (erotic love) for your spouse regardless of whether there is at that particular moment a strong emotional connection could be called "lust" but should be encouraged I believe.
Marriages are related to Christian concepts of monogamy. But we have a problem: The concept of Christian women embracing their sexuality is called "lust" and condemned nearly every Sunday in most churches. No distinction is made for married women, and I have never heard a church call for women to let go of that learn to enjoy their sexuality and fulfill their husbands. Never. But even CS Lewis, in Mere Christianity, warned in the chapter on sexual immorality that the chief sin is not found here. NO! He reminded us that the original and most serious sin is Pride, not sexual sin. But because of these very practices, the sexual appetites of Christian men are springing up everywhere (like a beach ball that won't stay under water) and all the church can do is give us more ineffective ways of shoving it down (break your computer!?), which keeps them talking about sexual immorality almost constantly, giving the impression it is the most deadly sin. But, proud virtue signaling churchgoers are far closer to Satan than an honest woman with a healthy sex drive and the humility to serve her husband in this way. In fact, such a woman is DEEPLY virtuous! I will do what I can to make this known.
The concept of Christian women embracing their sexuality is called "lust" and condemned nearly every Sunday in most churches. No distinction is made for married women, and I have never heard a church call for women to let go of that learn to enjoy their sexuality and fulfill their husbands. Never. But even CS lewis, in Mere Christianity, warned in the chapter on sexual immorality that the chief sin is not found here. NO! He reminded us that the original and most serious sin is Pride, not sexual sin. But because of these very practices, the sexual appetites of Christian men are springing up everywhere (like a beach ball that won't stay under water) and all the church can do is give us more ineffective ways of shoving it down (break your computer!?), which keeps them talking about sexual immorality almost constantly, giving the impression it is the most deadly sin. But, proud virtue signaling churchgoers are far closer to Satan than an honest woman with a healthy sex drive and the humility to serve her husband in this way. In fact, such a woman is DEEPLY virtuous! I will do what I can to make this known.
I will take it a step deeper. Churches teach men to be nice, to be "selfless" and to "do the dishes." Turns out, these things make men boring, predictable, and reduce female desire. Men erase themselves and pretend like they have no needs, which ruins polarity. If that wasn't bad enough, churches also tell women that eros (sexual love) is sin. So women have unattractive husbands and no ability to use their minds or imagination to get in the mood or get in touch with eros to unleash what little desire they have left. After all, eros = lust, right? Nope. Read Song of Solomon. But, what I'm trying to say is this: Christian women don't know how to get in the mood to have sex with a boring, predictable husband when they are not allowed to feel eros because it is sinful. So, simply telling women to have sex, may not be all that helpful either. Better to counsel couples on how attraction works, encourage women to embrace eros, and get the men to stop being "nice" and start acting like confident, autonomous (non-needy) men and leaders. I will say, it is extremely difficult for a man to become attractive, confident, and outcome independent when he has struggled with decades of rejection and porn. But if he can, that herculean achievement is precisely the thing he needs to get confidence back and become attractive again. And it is pretty much impossible if he sits around feeling ashamed for his legitimate sexual needs and "praying harder." Sexual masculine energy is what makes men, men. It MUST be directed. Not suppressed!
Before leaving, he could read a book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" get totally ripped and stop doing choreplay, enabling her stress patterns. He could get a higher paying job, encourage her to be a stay at home mom, and hold a dominant, outcome independent frame. He could take care of himself and set boundaries. If he becomes a leader, say joining @georgehayworth she might feel safe enough to relax and start respecting him. The truth is she is not attracted to this version of him. He has a choice: grow, or quit. Unless she has other issues like hormones or poor health, this could work.
This profile is the ultimate attraction, that is why I snapped up my wife @OrmrSgail and doing domestic things caring for our family is like... the ultimate! I wish I could go back and do it all again, better and sooner! And I wish I had had strong male role models so I could be the leader I am today, just 20 years earlier.