My man said something to me that really stuck.
He told me, โIโm not here to control you. Iโm not your dad, Iโm your partner. Youโre free to make your own choices. Just understand that every choice has consequences. If you choose something that damages what weโve built, thatโs on you.โ
He said, โIโll always tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because thatโs what healthy communication looks like. But if you keep stepping over the line after Iโve shown you where it is, then you were never really protecting us to begin with.โ
And honestly, thatโs what accountability in a relationship sounds like.
i finally did it: someone was talking on the phone with loud speaker sitting close to me while we were inside the bus.
so I joined the conversation with full confidence. when she gave me that โare you mad?โ look, I said, โsorry,I thought it was a group call since you put it on loudspeaker for all of us.โ
she quietly told the person, โIโll call you back,โ and ended the call immediately. ๐