Ruthie

your favorite calabar girl❤|
writer ✏ | lover of music | follow me on IG @ruthie_efa

[Ayooluwa @adewumihaas001]

So much for bitter Twitter feminism.

Women have been shouting on this space for over 5 years

We don protest, fight, walk.

1 Hinny is dead
2 Baba Ijesha molested a 14-year-old
3 A principal is pimping secondary school girls

I hate being a woman right now!

[PABLO OF UNN🦁 @chudy_jnr]

Stay indoors, stray bullet will come and kill you.
Go to School, they will kidnap and kill you.
Go for Job interviews, they will kidnap and kill you.
Try to protest, they will send people to shoot and kill you

This country nawa oh😫😪
#FindHinnyHumoren

[Blueseæ💙 @EdetOmonigho]

@Auntyadaa Prisoners to obaseki

[Big Silver✨ @Abbarh_Silver]

Power state with just 6hrs light daily. We fucking deserve better @aedcelectricity #SideWithNigeria #EndPoliceBrutalityinNigera #EndSARS
#EndBadRoadsInNorth
#EndNorthBanditryNow #EndBadGovernanceinNIGERIA

[Ruthie @Words_of_venus]

Its so depressing and exhausting being a Nigerian right now😔
#Endpolicebrutality

[Aproko Doctor Global @aproko_doctor]

Some people are so thirsty for validation from strangers on the internet that they go as far as lying, cooking up stories, just to look a certain way.

The hunger for attention is usually a result of low self-esteem.

Don't let that be you, don't allow strangers dictate your life

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7. Mental compatibility :
If you know that you are trying your best to have a reasonable conversation with your partner and it ends in arguments, tears or even beating, please cancel your marital plans ooh.. Save yourself today, for a happier tomorrow.

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6; Financial independence :
Marry someone you can always share your money with and always respect each others accounts.
Sister, don't take money from your husband's account without permission, brother don't take money from your wife's account without permission.

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5. Marry your friend : Marry someone you know you both can gist like friends. In fact if you both can't be friends, you shouldn't marry each other. If you know you are a playful type, marry a guy who you can gist with and connect with in all levels. Basically, marry your type.

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4. Don't allow ur parents choose a partner for you: This important. Don't marry someone because ur parents and their parents are family friends, if there's no love, it'll end in tears.
Parents r meant to guide you and not choose partners for you. Marriage no get referral bonus.

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3. Marry who you are sexually attracted to: all those people that like to form holier than thou, listen now o, it's not only prayer and fasting you'll do in marriage, sex will happen too.
Marry who you'll look at and you'll be like chai! Na me get am. Na my partner be this😚😘😋

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2. Don't marry for money : Money is very important ooh, in fact there's a kind of alert I'll get now and I'll start calling myself "Ruth Otedola"☺🤣 But please never make money the center of your love, what else can you see asides the person's financial status?

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please never marry for the wrong reasons,
Let me share a few tips:
1. Don't marry out of pity: please brother/sister, never marry a man/woman out of pity. If you don't love him/her, don't even date him/her or raise their hopes for marriage, that's wickedness.

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What's your take on this.. What would you advice a woman in similar situation to do..?

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2. Shield your kids from domestic violence and disputes. Some men would beat their wives in front of their kids.
3. If you want to hate your partner please hate alone, don't drag the child/children into it. Why turn a child against her father or mother?

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So I decided to share my thoughts
1. As a man why would you even beat your wife? If you wanna fight please sign up for military

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The expression on the woman face said alot, she immediately became cold and couldn't say a word. It was clear that the woman was in an abusive marriage and her child was
aware. The indaboski in me wanted to knock this child back to sanity

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The child replied "Beat me na, you'll see when we get home I'll tell daddy for you and daddy will beat you "

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I was with a friend in her shop some days ago and this woman came in with her child to buy something. While the woman was bargaining, her child was jumping all over the place. The woman became uncomfortable and scolded the child " Stay one place, I'll beat you oh "