There’s actually some psychology behind this.
It’s called the MERE EXPOSURE EFFECT.
The more you interact with someone, the more familiar they become to you. And late night conversations can make that effect stronger because nights can feel quieter, lonelier, and more emotionally vulnerable. You’re spending more one on one time together, with fewer distractions, so you naturally become more comfortable with each other.
After five nights of talking before bed, they can start feeling like part of your routine.
You might think you’re just talking.
But your brain might be getting used to having them in your life.
Not just flirting, even when it comes to sex, women are better at it than men. They are hornier, love talking dirty, want sex, and enjoy it more than men. All they need is to feel comfortable enough to express themselves.
Most women are shy and come off as though they don’t like sex because they don’t want to be judged. A lot of women are not as reserved as they appear. They are simply careful about who gets to see that side of them. Make a woman feel comfortable, accepted and unjudged, and you may discover a completely different person from the one everyone else knows.
The problem is that society has conditioned women to be ashamed of their sexuality. A man can post sexual stuff every day and people laugh it off. Let a woman do the same and suddenly she is a whore. As if women are not supposed to have sexual desires.
Back to the conversation: get a woman to feel free, safe, and comfortable around you, and you’ll see how uninhibited she can become. This is why it is often easier for men who come off as “bad boys” to pull women than for the stereotypical gentlemen. When a woman knows you’re comfortable with the “bad” side of things, she may find it easier to show you a side of herself that she would normally hide.
If she meets the gentleman, on the other hand, she may remain more reserved because she assumes that is the version of herself he wants to see. The gentleman might get the version of her that society has taught her to present. The guy she feels completely comfortable around might get the version of her she has been taught to hide.