Dating abroad is much better than dating in the west.
But.
To have a high volume of good looking girls or to find a girlfriend anywhere, you'll still need to be working on yourself, have game and have a system- but the ROI is usually much better abroad.
What's worked well for me:
-Working on myself no matter where I'm living
-Staying in shape
-Getting top tier, professional photos for dating apps and IG, and knowing how to mix in real life approaches
-Screening for medium-high and high interest girls early and screening out low interest and timewasters fast
-Going to dating markets where your value goes further
-Developing a system and optimizing it
And no, I don't pay prostitutes or simp and you don't need to either. Also, the majority of girls abroad are not desperate to leave their country or looking for a green card. The difference is your results will be even better than the West and the interactions will usually be with more feminine and receptive women.
The photos below are some of my highlights from living and dating abroad- not to brag, but it's to show I'm not faking it and to show what's possible.
If you do the work, improve your looks, get the right photos, and develop your game and personality, you'll almost certainly do well and your effort is rewarded more abroad.
In my posts I share actionable, no BS game strategy and tips from my real world experience.
Cheers!
Here's my take on number of matches:
SO MANY GUYS are obsessed over getting a ton of matches.
But I'm telling you, it's not necessary.
Give a regular guy 10 matches a day, give me just 2 matches a day.
I'll fuck more than him.
Why?
Because the rest of my game is just THAT DIALED IN.
The opener, moving to text, the screening, the logistics, the escalation, the pull, etc.
Hell 100% of my Tinder dates (so far in 2026) have converted into lays.
It's because I screen super-ruthlessly BEFORE I even ask them out.
If they smell fishy at all (no pun intended π€£), I don't ask them out.
They have a curfew? I don't ask them out.
They expect dinner? I don't ask them out.
They aren't high-interest? I don't ask them out.
They react weird when I sexualize the conversation? I don't ask them out.
SO MUCH of game actually happens BEFORE the date, but very few guys actually even talk about it (because deep down, most guys are happy and satisfied to even go out with a girl... that's how pathetic guys are).
If you screen the girl correctly BEFORE you ask her out on a date, the date itself is just a mere formality.
She arrives all primed to fuck already, she's touchy-feely from the get-go, she has gift-wrapped herself for you, she can't wait to finish her drink and get out of there.
You definitely won't get a frigid HR interviewer sitting opposite you, interrogating you about how you can make her life better... if you had only SCREENED her beforehand.
It's way better to lose the girl during texting if she's not DTF or a good fit.
Than to push your luck and pretend she's high-interest (or worse, try to change her mind on the date itself) and STILL get rejected at the end of the day.
Losing the girl during texting is a GOOD THING if she's screened out.
Not screening or weak screening is just amateur hour.
Fucking do better.
This. I have a player buddy who's 5'5" and has a lay count of 250-350ish.
Sure, he gets rejected immediately sometimes, but it's not common.
What works for him:
-Being above average looking
-Staying fit and being under 13-14% bodyfat
-Having good game and a system
-Not having a chip on his shoulder about his height
-Slightly exaggerating it a little bit(most girls can't tell the difference)
-Being outside the west(where being shorter won't hurt you as much)
Something that blows my mind is that guys still question whether to pay for Tinder/Bumble/Hinge premium or not.
This is a pre requisite, not an option.
You're blocking your own volume potential by getting locked at 30 swipes a day and/or not being able to see who liked you.
A big benefit of premium is when you have a good profile/you're in a big and decent city for dating, you don't even need to swipe. You can literally just pick from the girls in your likes list
@ShoyuConnects@julroams It's a necessity of you don't wanna be cancelled out after 30 swipes or so and also see who liked you first(again, with high volume and good profile you can literally just pick from the girls in your likes lost without swiping). You need volume , so you gotta pay for premium
I have over 2000 matches on my tinder account.
There's a few reasons for that:
-having really good photography quality photos
-being in Asia (yea that makes it about 2-3x easier to get matches than a big US city)
-Having a premium tinder account (if you're still using the free version, you're shooting your own dick off)
-being above average looking (no need to be a 6'4 "gigachad"- I'm not)
The main one is solid photos. Here's a few tips for getting those good pics:
-Use light FaceApp editing. The key here is light. Don't catfish or make yourself look fake
-Get photos done w a DSLR or iphone camera w good lighting(no lighting directly over your head)
-Confident, relaxed body language
-Good backgrounds (rooftop bar, hobby of yours, cooking, private dinner event or business event, etc). No stupid mirror selfies, awkward group shots, stiff or uncomfortable facial expressions, etc.
-Get high quality photos done of you doing hobbies/living YOUR life, not photos made just for tinder or bumble or hinge. Examples: playing tennis, golf, soccer, surfing, playing pool, cooking, etc.
Subtle signs on a date that a girl does NOT like you:
-She takes her purse to the bathroom each time
-She won't order a drink on a drink date
-She doesn't ask you any personal questions
-You sense a subtle ice barrier, like you feel your game isn't smooth- usually it's because the lack of chemistry from her to you, not your actual game
-She tries to start ordering a bunch of food
-Shes scanning the room and not in the moment w you
-She subtly switches the subject when you try to flirt
-She doesn't make much eye contact
-She doesn't wanna sit next to you when you suggest
There's more but this is what comes off the top of my head.
Some of these may be obvious to more experienced guys but look for these signs. Sometimes one of them alone is fine. But added up, probably best to cut the date short
I find bumble better in most Asian countries now. Girls are more keen to meet even if matches are a bit less.
For getting back on, you can still do it with a full account reset (search my page for "ban on dating apps" I made a post about how to get back on) but it's harder w the mandatory facial verification now. My buddy got around it by changing his beard, haircut and facial expression ahahahah
Always have a solid crew to roll with.
Don't become one of those guys in the game who focuses so much on girls that you don't have a social life or time for the boys. Over obsessed PUA/game guys become one dimensional and weird. You wouldn't wanna have a beer with them.
Having a night or two each week where you meet your friends and catch up is crucial for your sanity.
@titlejt Get nothing in return? Rage bait.
You get lower cost of living, good amenities, a better lifestyle, better dating, good social life, tons of things to do, etc
DTV visa for example is not expensive, costs $250 but a 5yr visa.
Solid! Yea, the building rooftop/swimming pool really helps.
I usually offer a grab/uber since she's coming right over, makes it more likely to get a yes and most of all, I use it to redirect away from the location or more about the transportation/logistics being the only talking point
I've had plenty of girls pay their own way to come right over, so you can do both strategies. I just see a slightly better conversion doing this
How to set up house dates with girls:
-Have a place w a nice rooftop view, swimming pool, or nice spot you can use as a DHV
-Never use the words "my place" or "my condo" etc. Use "drinks by the pool" "cooking together" or "drinks on my building rooftop"
-Redirect the objection away from the location and towards the logistics(ie- do u need grab/Uber/etc). Assumes the sale and puts the focus on the transportation, not the fact it's at your place
Bonus:
-Curfew screen to see how much time you have. Tells you subtly how DTF she is
-Let her know you're not looking for a ONS right before asking her out(only do this if it's true). This lowers her guard and makes her more likely to say yes to the house date
A few changes on how to use your photos for dating apps:
-Add 1-2 good selfies of yourself that aren't overly professional (reduces AI objections)
-Dont use AI in your photos in 2026 (I've leaned away from this)
-Professional photos from a real photoshoot are still the way to go. But try to make them more about you doing what you enjoy and in your environment, not purely staged portrait photos obviously made just for dating apps
-Remember to use light FaceApp for your photos- only a bit. Don't overdo it and catfish or make the edits look obviously fake
-Add 1-2 photos clearly in your city for social proof and to show you're actually real and there
A big part of dating abroad is adding more comfort to your game.
Girls in SEA and LatAm are more conditioned to local men(and also foreign guys) having multiple women, cheating, etc.
Then add in the reputation of certain cities (Bangkok, Medellin, Rio de Janeiro, Manila, etc) as fuckboy destinations and a lot of women will be high interest and feminine but also have their guard up a bit.
Shit, here in Asia I get girls on dating apps almost every day asking me "do you have a wife?" or "you must have a lot of girls here haha" etc etc.
Easy to overcome those tests/objections. But. It tells you that you need to run a bit more comfort game to ease their logical brain side so they can do what they really want to with you.
A great line I use (which for the most part is true) is "I'm selective".
and playing 10-20% "nice guy" vibe. Just a bit. Dropping a kissy emoji or being a bit sweeter back w girls sometimes (sparingly- don't go full Mr Nice guy mode) works very well abroad. Might make you look "weak" or "needy" in the west but there's cultural differences at play here.
Sprinkle in a bit of comfort game and you'll see girls investing more into the interaction.
The answer is definitely A.
Of course neither is these is ideal though for their own reasons but a 15 body count at 21 is a massive red flag. Even at 30 that's too high for serious LTR consideration.
Contrary to what many guys think, some older women (28+) can still keep themselves up well
@aruvinchan Classic Filipina. Filipinas are super easy and nice(in Spain might not be as good tho), but have an extremely high ASD. They usually all fuck once in person