The problem is a lot of yall niggas did not grow up seeing your moms be pampered.. yall either saw y’all mommas working like dawgs, on drugs, with an abusive ass man or collective government assistance struggling to make ends meet.. a lot of y’all grew up with all half siblings and absent fathers, so you genuinely don’t know what the man’s role is supposed to be and that’s why a lot of yall can’t fathom giving a woman a soft life and being a provider bc you grew up believing women are supposed to be strong and take care of you! A lot of you niggas don’t even know to hold the door or walk on the outside of the sidewalk bc the only protector you ever had was a woman! Lmao
ngl,this year really woke me up. I see clearly now,who's for me and never was. I learned to set boundaries, stop overextending myself and stop pouring into cups that don't pour back. it's not easy,but it's necessary and peaceful
Upgrading my appearance.
Becoming hard to reach.
Working 24/7.
Choosing happiness.
Cutting off toxic people.
No roaster.
Enjoying my alone time.
Forgiving myself.
You cannot:
Work full time, raise children, keep a spotless home, show up fully in your marriage, maintain friendships, stay fit, build wealth, read books, pursue hobbies, serve only home cooked meals, answer every email, and still make the 3:30 school pickup.
That standard was created to keep you exhausted and blaming yourself. Let it go.