Tree

Plant trees, not flags

[Tree @XLTREEE]

If you need me…

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@Oedi_puss yes.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

What are our thoughts on OCDcon? Why are we taking these psychiatric diagnoses and making them part of our identity so much so that we have communities around them. It's sicker than the sickness.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@veggiebat_ In that case, you have a beautiful life when everything around you points to the love of others.

[Jonathan Shedler @JonathanShedler]

In meaningful psychotherapy, we help patients move from the general to the specific, from the abstract to the personal. We encounter resistance along the way, which itself becomes the focus of our attention and curiosity.

👉Tell me what you mean
👉Can you give me an example
👉Say more
👉I notice you didn’t mention
👉Something makes it hard to talk about this
👉Perhaps there’s a reason you left that out
👉What more comes to mind
👉I notice you looked sad when you said
👉Perhaps it’s easier to focus on this than that
👉Can you put words to those tears
👉I notice we quickly got away from the topic of
👉Help me connect the dots

These comments are made in a spirit of non-judgmental curiosity, intended to invite the patient to *be curious* with us, without blame or shame.

They help create space for the patient to notice, attend to, and begin to put words to areas of experience that were previously unknown or unacknowledged.

This approach to psychotherapy takes account of unconscious mental life: we do not fully know our own hearts and minds, there are multiple layers of experience, and emotional life is complex and often contradictory.

This is how we become more self-aware and more whole.

The therapeutic stance of *finding out together* is very different from providing tips, tools, worksheets, advice, or solutions.

It is also very different from automatically affirming or validating whatever is on the surface, before we could possibly understand what we’re validating.

The starting point of in-depth psychotherapy is recognizing there is more than meets the eye, and working to develop a relationship in which patient and therapist can discover it together.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

"Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me" Is a lie and we need to address it as a society - it's meant to help stressed parents deal with their kids grief in a oversimplistic way that has long-term consequences of shoving that shit down deep.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@veggiebat_ @embryosophy as we all should. [shuttering]

[Tree @XLTREEE]

I love tacos. And it's a wednesday.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@Ruesavatar Just make the burrito

[Tree @XLTREEE]

Sunset under clouds, come walk on the beach w me.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@veggiebat_ promise? lol

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@Ruesavatar Looking good rue

[Tree @XLTREEE]

I genuinely get it. But that's not quite the point. We're supposed to eat meals together. the need for food also stimulates the need for social connection. without it.. we're just a wire monkey. why do so many of you watch something while you eat or eat fast?

[Skye @skye0xz]

Twin parents just unlocked a new life hack 😂🍼✨

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@Ruesavatar @breaking2morrow @Dearme2_ I'd Hajj for sure.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@Ruesavatar that's the best feeling. Good for him to do what he wants despite everyone else saying otherwise.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

Come nerd with me: https://t.co/F8lIJZzC3S

[Tree @XLTREEE]

baby shower - to someone who doesn't speak american it's a funny thing.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

@frideswyth love that smile. I hope you have the bestest of times.

[Tree @XLTREEE]

Promiscuous is a very telling word.

[Today In History @historigins]

A group of young Kestrels seeing a butterfly for the first time