Xavier Dagba

Author of Scars of Gold | Coach | Shadow worker.
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[Xavier Dagba @Xavierdagba]

My debut book Scars of Gold is here!

The thought of writing a book started torturing me in 2020.

I couldn't ignore it but I knew the timing wasn't right. It could've been my inner saboteur that talked me out of it. I guess I'll never know.

Back then the title I wanted to give to the book was: “I wish I failed them sooner.” It was about how the journey of becoming an outcast and a disappointment to most people who knew my former self, turned out to be the most liberating journey ever.

The idea took root but I couldn't follow through.

For context, in 2019, 2020 and 2021, we had a baby each year. It felt like I blinked and became a dad of 3. Don't ask me how that happened 🫡.

Needless to say that I never found it within myself to sit down and write.

In 2022, the spark came back with a new title: “The dark night of the ego.” It felt like collectively we were going through one, me included.

The idea sounded cool but still, between meeting my responsibilities as a dad, wanting to be a supportive lover, and running my business I didn’t have it in me to create time to write.

Throughout all these years I made an agreement with my soul. I decided that I would expand on the ideas I wanted to put in the book on my social media. I've posted thousands of pieces of content about these concepts.

That was my process to keep the flame of the writer alive within me… to embody the writer archetype.

Essentially I decided to write the book out loud without telling anyone. And it didn't go unnoticed.

My online presence eventually grew, and in 2023 an acquisition editor from Hay House reached out, out of the blue to start a book project.

That was a nudge from destiny.

Of course I said yes. The 2 years that followed have been the most intense spiritual pilgrimage of my life so far.

I met new fears. Had to integrate shadow material buried even deeper. And beyond everything, I've had to learn how to shine my light imperfectly.

The name of the book had to change again. It became: Scars Of Gold.

Inspired by the Kintsugi Japanese practice.

Well, Scars of Gold is officially available for pre-order.

This book wrote me more that I wrote it.

You might say we wrote each other.

A quote that is commonly attributed to Rumi is: “the wound is the place where the light enters you.”

If that's true, then to me scars of gold are the golden stretch marks that form on your heart when the light is done entering you.

This book is a medicine wheel. A Framework for healing, integration and self liberation through Shadow Work.

It's about how to turn the fractures in your psyche into scars of gold.

It's about how to live free in the places where you thought repression was safe.

It's for the true devotees of self liberation. The ones who wish to operate at the frequency of their highest truth. The ones who know their shadow is no longer something to fear. But a guide in disguise.

The ones who don't just want to illuminate their shadow, but who crave to reclaim the light it has been guarding.

This is what Scars of Gold is.

It's available for pre-order now. And launches globally on Sept 23rd.

As you might know, pre-orders are key for the success of a book.

If my work has ever touched you in any way, I trust that this book will serve you at a deeper level.

Go to https://t.co/4vaMspta6T to pre-order your copy and get exclusive bonuses.

Bonus 1: The golden shadow journal. A 7-day journalling guide to help you unleash the light you keep in the dark.

Bonus 2: Radiant Return. A golden shadow integration journey I created to help you reconcile even deeper with your repressed brightness.

This book is not about me. It's about us. It's about rebuilding trust with what makes us human. It's about falling in love again with what you've been conditioned to see as unlovable within you. Not intellectually but at a cellular level.

It's about freedom. Embodied self-liberation.

It would be an honor if you grabbed a copy on pre-order.

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Take a deep breath, put a hand on your heart, and repeat out loud:

"I now unsubscribe from the belief that sharing my gifts comes at the cost of great suffering."

Deep breath.

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Life will often undo all the things you built on a foundation of self-abandonment in order to prepare you for your next upgrade.

When that happens, don't assume things aren't working out or that it's a cosmic punishment.

It's the recalibration you didn't know you needed. Embrace it.

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Time to be in connection with the void, is sacred. Time to be intentionally bored and pondering nothingness, is sacred.

If you don't make time for it, life will often find ways to force you to. Some episodes of depression are life slowing you down so that you can reconnect with the source of possibility: the void.

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You want to amplify your creativity? Create intentional time to be in relationship with nothingness.

Go to the washroom without your phone. Raw dog moments when you are in between tasks without scrolling or something playing in the background. Go for a digital free walk. Protect your boredom and observe your life more... it wants to talk to you. That's the birthplace of inspired ideas.

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Your tolerance to embarrassment around the expression of your gifts, is the ceiling of your mission.

If you're willing to go higher, you'll have to break that ceiling.

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The amount of grace you'll have to give to yourself when you pursue your mission is grossly underrated.

The reality is that you will disappoint yourself more times than you can even imagine. It might sting more because of how meaningful this is to you.

And you'll have to give yourself grace each time to get up and keep going.

That's why your inner critic cannot run your mission. Your heart needs to.

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You change at the speed of your willingness to look like a fool while you're doing things that matter to your soul.

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You change at the speed of your willingness to shine your light imperfectly.

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Last day to join my private community ELP to dissolve the hidden forces that cause you to repress your light and sabotage your expansion.

Join here: https://t.co/9V3MSAuIhl

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You change at the speed of your willingness to stop managing how you're perceived.

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The amount of self love and self esteem required to risk sucking at something you love publicly and consistently enough until you get better at it, is hugely underrated. That's why most people repress their gifts.

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The amount of self love and self esteem required to suck at something you love publicly and consistently enough until you get better at it, is hugely underrated. That's why most people repress their gifts.

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No one wants to admit that they suck at shining their light at the beginning. No one wants to admit that they don't know what they are doing more often than not.

But when you make peace with that and keep showing up, you actually have a fojndation upon which you can build.

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Repressing your light can be as taxing to your nervous system as avoiding your deepest pains.

What most people disregard is that it's hard to maintain a regulated nervous system in a life where you chronically reject what is meaningful to your soul.