tolerating always turns into resentment. at first, you call it patience, then love. but what it really is, is self abandonment. every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. eventually, the bill comes due.
people with BPD dont just randomly act up for no reason. most of the time theyre reacting to something that has triggered a deep wound, fear or trauma. that doesnt mean every reaction is justified and people with BPD are still responsible for their behavior. a person with BPD can be completely different with a partner who is consistent, honest and emotionally safe versus one who constantly triggers their wounds
BPD is actually a really sad mental health condition when you think about it. Like a person was put through so much trauma, abuse, neglect, instability, etc., that it literally altered the brain to make a person feel like they are never safe. I feel like my nervous system will always be broken.
You’ll try to leave multiple times, most times you will go back, and then finally one day you find one small reason to be gone forever. It’ll be the first time in a long time you feel free.
i don't like people who can't put their pride aside. Like pleaseee apologize, say you fucked up and you miss me or you wanna be in my life again. Life's too short, grow up