@NhlanhlaNyosi@ilovezizo_ Yes - unfortunately, trying to introduce a “performance review” for your partner will most likely make their love for you feel conditional.
It’s not like you’re gonna get a promotion if you work harder… you feel? And women rarely want to feel like they worked for your love.
@ilovezizo_@NhlanhlaNyosi Long term relationships generally make people feel like they don’t have to work on themselves when they are already chosen.
If you lost/quit your job you’ll probably do some up-skilling. Not because you’re not good at what you do , but because you’re competing.
You don't realize how traumatizing corporate office politics are until you are out of that environment, realize that NONE of that sht was normal and you reflect on how you were treated for a job that you were overqualified for and underpaid for.
When the Khoe wouldn’t work for the Dutch in the Cape, they were branded as “lazy” & slaves were brought from Asia & elsewhere in Africa. When the Zulu wouldn’t work for the British in Natal, indentured labourers were brought in from India. This is all important to know today.
funniest part about the liking pictures discourse is that as a man you can still consume the content with your eyes and not tap the screen. you guys are knuckleheads.
Everyone is always rooting for you. Your parents want you to be a great son. Wife wants you to be a great husband. Your boss wants you to be a slam dunk hire. Every first date you’ve ever been on they’ve been rooting for you to get laid. Every time you started to tell a joke people hoped it would have a hilarious punch line. Your proximity to anyone is a reflection of themself, meaning the deck is never stacked against you, and your failures are completely your own
@reade_stev52333@emilykmay Also , she can opt in to the interest that was shown at anytime when she feels ready to be in a relationship again. Men need to test their market value before leaving. Also men aren’t socialised to desire happiness.