it is an unwritten rule of life that after every prolonged period of hardship and uncertainty, there is going to be a period when you are going to achieve quantum leaps across multiple areas of your life. the only requirement is that you do not give up on yourself.
After giving birth, a woman's internal wounds take six months to heal, 12 months for physical recovery, two years for hormonal balance, and up to five years to rediscover her identity. Relationships frequently fail during this time due to a lack of understanding. Be kind and patient with new mothers; they are facing more challenges than it appears.
Iโm forever making duโa that Allah grants me my beautiful ending,the dream career, financial freedom, sincere friendships, a loving family, peace, love, and every blessing that is good for me. May whatโs written for me be better than what Iโve imagined. Ameen.
I used to wonder why Allah describes Himself as โcloser to you than your jugular vein.โ
Not your heart.
Not your soul.
Not your mind.
The jugular vein.
โAnd We are closer to him than his jugular vein.โ (50:16)
I looked into it. The answer stopped me completely.
6 Nigerian celebrities we lost to cancer. ๐๐งต They gave so much to our culture and their impact will live on forever. ๐๏ธ
#1. Sunny Okosun โ Colon Cancer (2008)
Allahumma inni Asโaluka everything good in this Dunya and Akhirah, Health, Wealth, Rizq, Success, Calm heart, Strong iman, and a life full of Barakah I never expected, Ameen!
My dad used to call periods โgross.โ Said men shouldnโt hear about โwomenโs stuff.โ
Last week, my 12-year-old brother asked me what periods were like.
One of his friends had gotten hers at school, and he didnโt want to embarrass her.
So I explained it.
Cramps. Mood swings. Pain. Chocolate helps.
From the kitchen, my dad shouted:
โStop talking about that disgusting crap. Boys donโt need to know about it.โ
Before I could respond, my little brother looked him dead in the eye and said:
โThatโs why mom divorced you.โ
The whole house went silent.
My dad froze for a secondโฆ then walked away without saying a word.
My brother turned back to me like nothing happened and asked:
โSoโฆ what kind of chocolate should I buy her?โ
Episiotomyโฆ
A small incision made during childbirth.
But for many women, it's a lifelong story.
It's 3:20 AM in the delivery room.
The mother is tired, the baby is coming, the team has to make a quick decision.
Let's make an incision, it will be more controlled.
Ultimately, the thought is that a neat incision is better than a messy tear.
But the reality is now that
Episiotomy is not a routine procedure.
Today I see that this incision can lead to permanent sexual dysfunction problems in some patients.
In fact, a selective (when necessary) episiotomy approach
results in fewer complications than a routine incision.
So when is it really necessary?
โ๏ธ In cases where the baby is in distress
โ๏ธ In case of shoulder dystocia risk
โ๏ธ In instrumental deliveries (vacuum/forceps)
โ๏ธ If there is a high risk of uncontrolled tearing or if your doctor sees a serious risk at that momentโฆ
The goal is not just to deliver the baby. The goal should also be to protect the mother's quality of life.
TO ALL WOMEN OVER 25:
Your gut controls your hormones.
Your hormones control your weight, skin, mood, and energy.
Five foods. Not supplements. Foods.
Every single day.
Here's the list and exactly why each one matters for your gut.
The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get home. Itโs not really about the train. Itโs about how much of yourself you lose while trying to stay somewhere you were never meant to be. Every minute you sit in the wrong place, with the wrong people, or in the wrong relationship, you move further away from where youโre meant to be.
You keep hoping things will change, that the path will somehow lead you to the right destination, but it wonโt. Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is get up, step off, and walk away, even if you feel lost for a while. Because being lost for a moment is better than being stuck forever. You deserve to go somewhere that feels like home.