if love ever finds me again, may the universe let me meet someone who loves me as deep as i do. Someone who is never okay with hurting me. Someone who is loyal, kind & devoted. Someone who will never make me feel unwanted, someone who feels like home & also finds home in me.
If Iโve made plans with a man, on the day I continue with my life like I donโt have plans until he actually reminds me of said plans bc men are disappointing in nature.
I had some thoughts about this recently. The moment you decenter marriage as a woman, your head becomes clear. And it should be. Placing marriage on a pedestal is often an express way to betray yourself, and your instincts because you would do anything to have it.
My hyper independence also stems from this lmao. Iโve been disappointed enough times by people I thought would never disappoint me (maybe thatโs on me for setting high expectations) but Iโd rather do things myself. I donโt ask for anything from anyone to avoid lo dissapointment.
One harsh truth Iโve accepted is that love alone isnโt enough. A woman can genuinely care about you and still walk away if she feels unsafe, unvalued, or sees no real future. Effort and emotional safety matter way more than most men realise.
all relationships can survive mistakes, but they cannot survive patterns. Repeated behavior isn't a mistake, it's a decision, apologies lose meaning when the actions never change
It must be nice being a man because no matter how mediocre, unremarkable or directionless you are, thereโs comfort in knowing someone has been socialized to look at you like a leader.
@muheediva01 You dont have to be understanding all the time. Learn to discern. Most importantly, tell some people to fuck off, please save your fucks for magical shit that sets your soul on fire.