not a healthy coping trait I know, but every heartache and pain is always “non-monumental” to me because I know the pain of losing a parent at an early age. I use that pain to gauge everything else, sometimes even dismissing somethings cause they feel irrelevant.
Decenter “marriage material” as a performance category you’re auditioning for. You are not a candidate. You’re a whole person living an actual life. The right one meets that life and wants in.
So take the trip. Spend on the memory. Be loud, be full, be unedited.
Decenter marriage-readiness as the goal of your 20s banyana baka.
If you are genuinely conservative and that’s you then this thread is *not* about you. Live exactly as you are. This is for the women hollowing themselves out for an audience of men who haven’t even asked.