When people say “ you doing better than most people” that is not a compliment to me. My goal is never comparison I want to exceed my own goal not settle for “ doing better than most”
Keep your problems smaller than your life. A flat tire is a flat tire. A bad meeting is a bad meeting. A canceled flight is just an extra two hours. These things become catastrophes when you let them. But they stay manageable when you remember the depth of your real life- the people you love, the work you care about, the beautiful years still ahead. Zoom out. Fit your reaction to the size of the problem.
Vince Young explains his parenting style and why he refuses to turn his son’s football career into an extension of his own
“I don’t get involved with the coaching stuff. I help out. I go throw the ball to him. Point out little small things that I feel like he can fix.”
“Me, I’m more so like loving him. ‘I’m proud of you, son.’ I’m a fan.”
“I’m going to watch my son, man. I’m just proud of him.”
“I didn’t have my dad around. He was in and out of jail. I had to depend on guys like TJ’s dad… And my other teammates’ dads… To tell me they were proud of me.”
“When I’m around my kids… I want them to know… ‘I love you.’ I’m not on your ass… Telling you what you can do better. I’m not yelling at you.”
“You’re going to make mistakes… But let’s fix it together.”
“Me and my son and daughter… We go to therapy together. They hear me talk to the therapist… And vent out what’s bothering me… Then he and she can feel comfortable doing the same thing.”
One thing I cannot tolerate at this big grown age is someone who acts like cause and effect doesn’t exist. Yes, your actions caused this outcome, so why are you standing there shocked and playing the victim.