Date women who genuinely want a relationship, want to be loved, want to give love, want a man. Not because theyโre hungry, but because they love love, they understand what companionship means, and youโll enjoy the relationship.
When you come home tired from work, your daughter jumps to hug you, your wife says dinner's ready hun and your sons yell, 'Hurry, Dad! The UCL is about to start'
@TechnicalBben Don't let your lifestyle grow faster than your income.
I'm not trying to look rich. I'm trying to build enough wealth that I don't have to struggle again. ๐ฏ
Comfort is the most expensive thing you will ever buy.
You pay for it with the life you could have had.
The bill just arrives slowly, one unremarkable year at a time.
Disclaimer: If you're already doing well financially, just keep scrolling. This isn't for you.
But if you're just starting your journey, especially if you've been in a place where you were really broke, like I used to be, then you need to understand these simple steps.
Two years ago, I used to have less than โฆ700. Then I made my first million naira and my earnings started becoming consistent. One of the best things I did for myself at that point was to go back to stay with my parents. I had no babe, no major responsibilities, and I wasn't trying to impress anyone. I was eating my normal trendy cheese food. I could spend โฆ1,000 to โฆ1,500 on food and basically be fine for the day.
A lot of people, once they start making โฆ1M a month, will quickly leave their parents' house, rent an apartment, buy a car, start having ladies, start stepping out more, and start competing with people. I wasn't willing to compete with anyone. I just wanted to compete with my previous self. My previous self was broke.
My friends told me I should leave because I had started making money, but I told them I wasn't leaving. I wanted to stay, build and save better. People told me to buy a car, rent a place and do a lot of interesting things, but I said no because I had a plan.
And that decision helped me save a lot of money. I knew house rent would take a huge chunk of my earnings if I wanted to live in a nice, conducive environment in Lagos. Food is also expensive, and once you move out, you're not just paying rent. You're paying for electricity, internet, transportation, furnishing, maintenance and a lot of other things.
Instead, I wanted to use that period to build capital, invest and diversify my income.
Today, I can make close to โฆ200K from investments without touching the capital. That's around โฆ2M in a year while I still chase other jobs and build other things. The capital is still there, and the money keeps compounding.
That is the mindset I'm trying to build.
I don't want to depend on one source of income. I'm working with agencies, experimenting, building a startup, and soon I'll be starting a clothing brand, building an app and growing a beautiful community.
Living with my parents gives me the comfort to do all of this without constantly worrying about house rent or expensive food. It gives me room to think, reset, experiment and reshape what I'm doing.
So when I eventually leave, I don't need to move into a fancy apartment. I'll get a simple place and let it be a stepping stone.
I'm currently diversifying my income so I don't have to touch my salary just to pay rent.
I still eat my โฆ1,000 to โฆ1,500 food. I still use a simple โฆ130K phone. I still live a very simple lifestyle.
Not because I can't spend more, but because I know I've been in poverty and I don't want to go back there.
If you're just starting out, you don't need to prove that you've made it because you started making money.
Build first. Save. Invest. Diversify. Then upgrade your lifestyle when your money can comfortably carry it.
Don't let your lifestyle grow faster than your income.
I'm not trying to look rich. I'm trying to build enough wealth that I don't have to struggle again.
Skill makes you money.
Reputation makes you rich.
One is what you can do. The other is who trusts you to do it, and trust compounds far faster than talent ever will.