The way i dey always respect niggas with self respect dey amaze me too…. Once i notice sey you no dey allow anybody walk on you, my respect for you just subsciounsly increases walahi😂💯
@Munashalom Gabriel has his way of paying back for his mistakes. I truly believe Gabriel will score the winner at the UCL final this season. Bookmark this tweet.
20 STEPS TO GO FROM LOW SELF-ESTEEM AND SHYNESS TO REAL CONFIDENCE
1. FIX YOUR APPEARANCE FIRST
Start with what you can control immediately. Get a proper haircut, keep your beard or face neat, smell good, take care of your teeth, wear clothes that fit properly and keep your shoes clean. You don't really need designer clothes. Looking in the mirror and actually liking what you see gives you a different energy before you even leave the house.
2. FIX YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
Before you work on conversation, work on how you carry yourself. Stop walking with your head down, mumbling or constantly looking at the floor. Stand straight, walk normally, keep your shoulders relaxed and look at people when they speak to you. Stop physically shrinking yourself.
3. BUILD ONE AREA OF REAL COMPETENCE
Low self-esteem is sometimes difficult to talk away because deep down, you don't think you have much to offer. Pick something and become genuinely good at it. Your work, business, football, books, fitness, technology, anything. Confidence becomes easier when you have something inside you that you know you are good at.
4. FIX YOUR KNOWLEDGE GAP
Read, follow current affairs, learn about things outside your immediate environment. Watch good films, listen to music, understand different subjects and develop opinions. One reason some people struggle in conversations is that they genuinely don't know what to say. Give your mind material to work with.
5. START WITH PEOPLE YOU ALREADY HAVE ACCESS TO
Don't begin by trying to become the most social person at a party. Start with people you encounter regularly. Greet your neighbour. Talk to the security man. Have a proper conversation with the woman selling food in your street. Speak to your colleague instead of just saying good morning and walking away. Build the muscle where the consequences are small.
6. STOP ANSWERING PEOPLE WITH ONE-WORD RESPONSES
If someone asks, “How are you?” don't always say “Fine.” Add something. “I'm good, just came back from work.” Then ask them something. You don't need to become a comedian. Learn the basic rhythm of conversation: answer, add something, ask something back.
7. LEARN TO INITIATE CONVERSATIONS
Once you're comfortable responding, start conversations yourself. Ask your colleague about the football match. Ask someone where they bought something you like. Tell the person beside you that the traffic today was terrible. These interactions may look insignificant, but they teach your brain that approaching people is normal.
8. STOP WAITING TO FIND THE PERFECT THING TO SAY This is where many shy people get stuck. They are mentally editing every sentence before it leaves their mouth. By the time they've found the perfect response, the conversation has moved on. Say the ordinary thing. You don't need every sentence to be intelligent.
9. LEARN TO SPEAK WITHOUT APOLOGISING FOR YOUR OPINION
Don’t apologize for having an opinion. Instead of saying, “I don't know if this makes sense, but maybe...” just say what you actually think. Stop making your opinion feel inferior.
10. START EXPRESSING PREFERENCES
Low self-esteem often shows up as having no opinion because you are afraid yours will be judged. Start small. “I prefer this restaurant.” “I don't like this movie.” “I'd rather stay home.” “I don't eat that.” You are teaching yourself that your preferences are allowed to exist.
11. LEARN TO DISAGREE WITHOUT FIGHTING The first time someone disagrees with you, don't immediately retreat. Say, “I understand your point, but I don't agree.” Then explain why. You need to experience disagreement without your world ending. Confidence grows when you realise people can disagree with you and still respect you.
12. STOP AVOIDING EYE CONTACT
Now that you are talking more, work on your presence. Look at people when they speak. Hold eye contact for a few seconds, naturally look away, then return to them. Don't stare. The goal is to communicate that you are comfortable enough to be present.
@dynamicifedola honestly,
i never planned to come and collect your number that day
but i guess i had no choice because you really do caught my attention💔
and now, my heart won’t even let me rest because i can’t stop thinking about you, which that kind things has never happened to me before
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God has delivered it for us again
We thank God for all❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥
COMMUNITY WIN SUCCESSFULLY DELIVERED 💸💸
75 ODDS WON✅✅✅
35MILLION IN THE BAG🎁