Hot take:
It should actively bother you to be shy as an adult. And it should never be normalized.
The reason it does not fade with age stems from the fact that you never worked against it, so you live in the delusion that shyness is the right and optimal behavior.
As a result, people hide their shyness and pretend they're just 'introverted.'
But these are two entirely different states.
Yes, there are people with anxiety disorders. But they aren't normal and shouldn't be normalized. They must be treated, not avoided.
Anything less is delusion.
The reason I phrase this so harshly is that shyness actively sabotages your life and ruins opportunities.
Softening my phrasing would be a deceitful disservice to you.
The way you get interesting things to say is by accumulating a massive amount of hands-on experience doing interesting things. You don't get insight until you've been in the trenches.
@_MsLinda@aeyezmina I also don't encourage cynicism towards personality tests because apart from the fact that they make you look pretty 😂
They're backed by social sciences. Social sciences, though don't seem to be easily measured with numbers, they use logic and experiments and they're important
@_MsLinda@aeyezmina I would say they do actually. I have taken multiple personality tests across different platforms and timelines and they all come out the same
While it's true that personality changes I agree with @_MsLinda that nobody is technically that special.
One lesson from Robert Greene that has stayed with me:
Your 20s should be spent on two tracks.
1. Learn relentlessly. Build skills, read, practice, and get better at things that compound over time.
2. Live fully. Try new experiences, meet different people, learn a language, travel if you can, and stay curious.
The goal isn't to be productive every second of the day.
It's to grow while giving yourself enough room to experience life.
A lot of who you become will come from both the skills you build and the experiences you collect. ✨
painful realizations of YOU growing up
>the world is not fair
>intelligence is not the main driver of success (plays a role)
>fragility of time
>everyone gives you a free pass in your 20s (no expectations from society)
>figuring out what makes you feel alive = 7x quality of life
period in your life where you start to realize what it is all about and how the game is structured. if you are one of the lucky ones, you realize that life is not a linear battle but a full-on open front where you will have to take care of multiple things at once