I'm really a slow eater. You will be heading to the third wrap of fufu while I'm still in the first one. If you eat with me, you will either get done before me or eat more than me. I don't even know how to improve this, and most times I prefer to eat alone, slow and steady.☹️
@jon_d_doe I'm glad you saw these signs early enough, and I can also say he doesn't deserve someone so intentional about him.
He'll probably be back after "testing the waters," do well to stand your ground, and uphold your boundaries. I wish you all the best!
@jon_d_doe Patiently read through this story cos I've been in a similar situation, although mine probably didn't have another lady involved.
I would honestly advise you to choose yourself and take a walk. A man knows what he wants deep down. All that confusion about commitment is BS.
Omo these are few quirks I’ve “struggled” with during my career:
1. I first thought I was lazy because I needed to get into a zone to do some specific work. But soon realized that my working style for my hardest tasks involved taking in as much information about random things all day (sometimes including Twitter, Insta, memes 😀) and then then using a few hours to churn out super high quality output.
2. Also noticed I work better in isolation, or with max 1 or 2 others. So my approach is to attend meetings and solve other people’s problems early in the day and mine from 4pm onwards as people start to close. Hence why I end up working till late once I’m in the zone.
3. I also don’t work when I’m very exhausted. I sleep. Doesn’t matter if it’s a Monday morning or Wednesday afternoon - if I’m tired, I take a nap or a full night rest. It’s science.
4. I tell people “done is better than perfect”, so first get a task done before you try to make it perfect. But truth is, I always have 2 versions of everything I work on! 😂 I have a quick version that covers the bases. Then I have a version that I will keep refining and refining (if I have time).
you can have empathy and compassion toward a persons situation/reasons for their emotional neglect toward you, while also upholding boundaries that protect your heart from feeling hurt by them again in the future.
The idea that you have to be 5 steps ahead of your wife for a marriage to work does not really work for me. How exactly is that supposed to work when you're not in control of the universe?
One, it implies there is a competition between us. Two, it implies that the respect you have for me is subject to my financial state in comparison to yours at every point. Thirdly, it implies I have to stifle your growth if it means I remain on top.
Truth is, life is unscripted. A fantastic job opportunity can come. Your career can take a very huge positive spin. An investment can go right. An old kindness can bring new possibilities.
Money is just money. I have no attachment to money or what money can buy. So I am not bothered. I am interested in your growth and will support it to the fullest. But you will not disrespect me because of money - I won't take it. I'm not putting a price on my respect.
You should always be happy to walk away from disrespect. In my life, I have come to know that family is more important than everything - including money and career. Someone that loves you would be supportive of your growth and if you disrespect them because of your career growth or financial increase, you're just a fool.
There is a reason I am particularly about family values. If you can't see the importance of the home we are building together because of a pay check, we have no business together. Instead of stifling your growth, walking away makes more sense to me.
If you have to compete with your wife, I think the relationship has a bad foundation. Telling yourself that you have to be 5 steps ahead is delusion. You dont control fate. If you are not sure of the fate of your relationship if your woman is earning more or your man is earning less, you are with the wrong person. If you're richer than me, good for us. If I am richer, good for us. We are a team, not a rival.
Every blessing or increase should be for the interest of the home and the children you are raising together. Special moments are special because of special people. What is the point of success and financial growth if you can't share them with the people you love?
Date people with family values.
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