The miracle we want wants us too.
We just need to pay the price attached to every phase of it.
Rejection is a price to pay.
Criticism is a price to pay.
Delay is a price to pay.
Every blessing has a preparation season.
Uncommon advice: If you don't know what to pursue in life right now. Pursue yourself. Pursue becoming the healthiest, happiest, most healed, most present, most confident version of yourself. Then the right path will reveal itself.
“Time will tell” is one of the realest quotes ever because time will eventually tell who put in the work, it will tell who was disciplined, it will tell who was playing the long game. Time will indeed tell.
One thing I discovered in my visits to South East is that if you as an Igbo man maltreats a stranger, you will be severely dealt with.
If on the other hand a stranger offends you, they will beg you to pardon him or her, that he/she is a stranger.
This phenomenon is captured by many proverbs. I will share three:
1. 'Ojemba enweghi iro' it means a traveller doesn't have enemies, Ndi igbo are born travellers so how can they be hostile with people in their region knowing those people will avenge in their own region.
2. 'ogbu onye biara na be ya adighi ike' meaning he who kills his visitor is a coward.
3. 'Obialu bee mu abiagbula mu, mgbe oga ala mkpumkpu apukwala na azu'. - May my visitor not kill me and on his departure, may he not have hunch back!
Travelling indeed broadens the mind!
Remember something brave you did when you were a child. Even when you were small, you were capable of great things. You showed character and strength. You did something impressive, despite being small, scared and vulnerable. Remember this, and let it inspire you now as an adult.
I don’t think a woman can actually enjoy the very best that this life has to offer, as in, adventure and do risky and dangerous things without wrecking herself, unless she has a dangerous and trustworthy man to do it with.
The safety, thrill and complementarity of her lover’s presence just opens up the world to her in ways it is closed without him. He can take her to places that would be unsafe for her alone. Speak for her in places where they would not listen were the very exact same words coming from a woman's tongue. She is, in her natural state, less free without him - viewed by the world as prey with her small body, and as less serious with her feminine voice - and she knows it.
Paradoxically then, man both limits and frees her, and if he does it right - limits her by structuring her in all the ways that are most freeing - by bringing coherence to her self-destructive chaos, and generative chaos where she has otherwise been restricted, muzzled, and unable to indulge her appetites.
A man must discipline himself, or he will come to ruin by nothing but the weakness of his own will - and what greater shame is there?
The psychic muscle must be trained… whenever there is a harder superior option and an easy convenient option, choose harder over and over again.