2. A woman whose medical history you do not know.
Sexual pleasure lasts minutes. Sexually transmitted infections can last a lifetime. Herpes has no cure. HIV has no cure. HPV can cause cancer in you and in every woman you touch after her.
You are not just risking yourself. You are risking every future partner. You are risking your ability to have children. You are risking your peace of mind. Every time you feel a tingle, every time you see a bump, every time you have to have "the conversation" with a new partner, you will remember the night you chose pleasure over precaution.
Getting tested is not complicated. Asking for test results is not rude. It is self respect. A woman who refuses to share her status or gets offended by the question is a woman who does not care about your health. Do not sleep with someone who does not care if you live or die.
You are not just sleeping with her. You are sleeping with her husband's rage, her children's trauma, and her divorce lawyer's billable hours. The affair feels exciting in secret. It feels like you have won something. You have not. You have borrowed trouble.
If her husband finds out, you become the target of his anger. Men have been killed over this. Men have been bankrupted over this. Men have lost their careers, their reputations, their peace. You are not the first man who thought he would not get caught. You will not be the last.
Even if you do not get caught physically, you will carry the secret. You will look at yourself in the mirror differently. You will know that you are the kind of man who sleeps with another man's wife. That knowledge does not fade. It settles into your bones.
And what kind of woman sleeps with another man behind her husband's back? What makes you think she will not do the same to you? If she will betray him, she will betray you. A woman built on deceit does not suddenly become honest. You are not special. You are just next.
Sleep with these women at your own risk.
(Because some women don't just bring pleasure… They bring chaos, heartbreak, regret, and problems that can destroy your life.)
1. A married woman.
The LIRR strike really is a litmus test for who is and isn’t pro labor bc a lot of yall seem to think middle class workers shouldn’t be allowed to ask for cost of living increases since they’re not poor