disappearing on your partner after conflict when they need clarity or closeness is not giving yourself space. it is emotional abuse. the anxiety and abandonment wounds it creates are very real
Once i mentally separate myself from a situation you'll never get the same me. I'm somebody you gotta do right by the first time because my mental detachment doesn't allow reconnection. Especially because at my age its hard to make sense out of another grown person trying to play
If someone only "loves" you when you do exactly what they want and withholds that love when you're not behaving "correctly". That's not love. It's control.
I look at relationships differently and thatโs why Iโm single. I wanna be valued and not just loved. I want transparency and not just honesty, open lines of communication. You know some shit this generation clearly isnโt capable of giving or receiving.