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[thetalkinitiative @talk_initiative]

Get ready for T.A.L.K Conference! This year’s theme: Bridging the Gap: Tackling Sexual Violence & Mental Health Stigma in Secondary Schools.

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[JM @educatedhustler]

Facts !!

[• @aliyuyahas]

NNPCL is Hiring.

Graduate Trainees and Experienced Hire.
Closing date is 20th August 2024.

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[Obiageli @_Estaaah]

@Scarlett_zeee I can't sleep😂😂😂

[🧘🏽‍♀️P _ AUTOS @progress_ejiogu]

CAN I HELP YOU? I vividly remember hearing this exact question that gave me a big relief after 30mins of being stranded at fidelity bank festac town Lagos.
On this fateful Saturday morning in February 2021 I had tried withdrawing some money from the atm in order to rush

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[Obiageli @_Estaaah]

@somto_kosi 😂😂E reach to call am kith o

[Obiageli @_Estaaah]

What is going on here?

[Hauwa 🌟🌬 @Hauwa_L]

The scary part is not that dollar is going to 2k, the scary part is that it’s not going to suddenly halt at 2k. Lmao.

2k is not a goal.

[Obiageli @_Estaaah]

@OmaAdaNkanu @GraceChiAlex This is beautiful

[Benji Newman @acebenji]

I pray I don’t mishandle what I prayed for.

[Aproko Doctor Global @aproko_doctor]

My best days are still ahead.

[Obiageli @_Estaaah]

@comfort_effect_ Congratulations Pharm Lollipop🎉🥂

[Obiageli @_Estaaah]

@Hauwa_L Do birthday party

[First Doctor @FirstDoctor]

If you did not drink soda today, like & repost.

[Oriaku Worldwide🌎✨ @somto_kosi]

Bringing my business here🌚🌚.

Dear X men and women, when I’m not being a product manager, here’s what I do🫠.

Send in your orders. I can even cook at 3am🥰🌚.

Stir fry pasta and smoky jollof made with love☺️ for a customer. 2.4L each.

[Obiageli @_Estaaah]

@Hauwa_L 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Ìfẹ́ @diaryofa9jagirl]

I agree. The Feminism portrayed on twitter is MANY TIMES different from the true essence of feminist values. Numerous "Twitter feminists" seem more inclined to hurl insults than extend help to fellow women, prioritizing uncouth language and rigid expectations over educating and empowering others.

In contrast, many real-life feminists actively contribute to women's lives, irrespective of their stance on feminism, by challenging systemic barriers. Their primary focus lies in empowering women intellectually, financially, and mentally, recognizing that true empowerment fosters self-belief and knowledge.

On twitter, it seems to be a raging war where the fastest finger is deluded into thinking the best comeback has solved a gender bias problem. On twitter, it seems women only have the right to choose if the choice conforms to the expectations set by these Twitter feminists. If you do otherwise, you’re probably an open or closeted misogynist.

Sigh…

It's disheartening that Twitter feminism almost compels me to add disclaimers like "I'm a feminist but not a Twitter feminist," or "I'm a feminist who loves my partner and doesn't hate men." “I am a feminist but I love cooking for my husband…”

I should simply be a able to say “I am a feminist” and that should universally acceptable.

Also, there’s so much anger…

Don’t get me wrong, anger could be justified especially when there’s so much historical and current injustices against women and the stark gender bias could be annoying. In some occasions, anger is NEEDED to convey emotions because staying silent is tantamount to participating in evil doing. Truth is, the reproduction of a bias system can make you go mad if you care enough.

Is the root to your anger because of the injustice of an action, because of a personal pain you feel in relation to the event or because you’re so narcissistic that you completely refuse to accept that there are other ways that lead to a destination aside from YOUR way?

Please understand, I’m not an expert on anger, this is because I rarely get angry, it’s not an emotion that I prioritise so I can’t categorically state ALL reasons why these twitter feminists usually sound angry. I sense vibes and energy though and I have made successful life decisions based on the energy I feel so I can categorically say that I do not hear anger alone from the twitter feminists, I also sense contempt, bitterness and cruelty.

In few occasions, I have allowed my anger override my emotional intelligence and my true intentions but in time, I have come to prioritise real life direct impact over public outrage and winning an argument.

Before you come for a woman’s choices, I beg you to pause and reflect on your words and intentions. Will it empower her, educate her? Are you open to dialogue to understand her intentions or you just want to Lord your self righteous opinions over her?

I’m going to close with Chimamanda’s words. She said, “I say to young Nigerian feminists – please do not use feminism to justify your wickedness… Sometimes, I see some of these young ladies and when talking to them, they sound really mean, and I say to them this isn't feminism; you're just being nasty.”

Note: I’m on holiday so I’ll not be reading responses. If this tweet incites anger, I offer no apologies.

[Yetunde Omobolanle✨ @Divayetty1]

To be honest, my biggest prayer for 2024 is for ease; I don't have the energy to struggle, and I don't want to have to, not for a relationship, not for a job, not for money, not for anything.

Please, God, make the whole year soft.🙏

[Eni Adeoluwa @Enioluwa]

Who are we? We ought to prayyyy!