Back in January I set THREE goals for the year 2021. I wanted to get a job in my career field, get a new car, and live in a different city. Itโs now April and start my new job tomorrow, got my car on Friday, and I live in Dallas, TX now. God has been so good to me๐๐พ๐ฅบ!
Nobody appreciates the soft version of me. The calm me. The one that forgives, nurtures, and gives chance after chance. But the moment I stop being niceโฆ now Iโm the villain? Nah.
My therapist told me:
โWhen a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.โ
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.
I had a friend who used to call me at 4am crying about her boyfriend. Iโd wake up, listen, let her vent, and then go back to sleep, more than once. One night I couldnโt sleep, so I thought Iโd return the favor and called her at 4am. She answered and told me she was sleeping, & I should call back tomorrow. Moral of the story: always remember that energy you give isnโt always going to be reciprocatedโset your boundaries, even with โfriends.โ
i saw a girl on tiktok who said "accountability is so important to me. nobody's perfect, but don't try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match" i felt this to the core.
One thing 2025 taught me is that loyalty does not guarantee safety rather itโs emotional, spiritual, or physical and discernment is just as important as devotion.
Men don't understand... being a "PROVIDER" isn't all about MONEY. It's about providing the EMOTIONAL SECURITY that allows a woman to rest in her FEMININE ENERGY. Money is the icing, not the cake