And this is where my grapple is.
Everyone else will absolutely lead to a faster economic decline and further economic, social and political participation of black people in a majority Black Country. I loathe the ANC but you can never convince me the DA is remotely an option.
I know you guys hate me for it but we actually cannot afford to have the ANC out of parliament. Everyone else is so right wing we will suffer not just economically.
The only reason it took so long for this is because everyone kept treating it as the "you-cannot-have-kids-disease", instead of acknowledging that the condition was wrecking havoc in the entire body, and infertility was just a symptom
Women are expected to age like they haven’t lived. No lines, no fat, no rage, no grief. Just quiet, youthful obedience until we disappear. Fuck that! I want to age like Mother Earth who’s full of stories, rich with wisdom and unapologetically alive.
This whole convo about whether it’s okay to make out with your spouse and not go all the way is weird, fam. Lots of entitlement cropping up in some of those threads.
I want y’all to remember, for a moment - if you can - your early 20’s. Remember having a crush?? Remember falling in love?! Do you remember grappling with whether an advance was going to be well received by a someone you truly admired -mind, body, and SOUL?? The headiness, the anticipation, the hope of it all? The lengths you would go to be elevated in your crush’s eyes?
WHERE DID YOUR WHIMSY GO?? - I’m so for real. You mean to tell me that you stepped through the threshold of marriage and quit seeing each other as whole people?
You let the magic die so hard that you have the audacity to expect that every affectionate touch is reduced to being the means to the end?
You mean to tell me that you could never go see a movie together and make out in the car afterwards like teenagers just for the sheer joy of it and that’s no fun for you unless you go all the way?? Because you’re such a slave to your physical impulses that you forgot that you originally fell in love with this person’s SOUL?? Did you forget what intimacy IS??
It’s no wonder so many young people look at marriage and see a dead thing they want nothing to do with.
Lady at the dealership was talking to me today:
She said, “Women have perverted what polygamy is” and she hasn’t watched the show (she’s read the book) but the women in his life “forgot their power and they’re responsible for this”
Surely our votes should have a weighting system