Donโt let anyone gaslight you into thinking intellectual mismatch is not a thing in romantic relationships. It's not even about formal degrees or booksmarts. It shows up in things like curiousity, conversational depth, imagination, openness, and worldviews.
If you want to see the depth of someoneโs emotional intelligence, confront them on something they did. Gently, with love. Not from a place of blame, but from a desire to be understood and met. Then watch what they do. How they respond will tell you everything.
All the silence Iโve kept with the notion of letting it go; am I selfish to not want a reward ? I owe them nothing - is this a test of my faith ?
Hmm