If a relationship is too peaceful, one of them is an avoidant, or both.
Avoidants love when everything is rosy, chemistry is top notch, sex is great, y’all match each others vibes so well, but immediately something happens that needs an apology or responsibility, the relationship becomes a threat to them
All of a sudden, the person is too serious, too sensitive, they don’t want any issues at all, “it’s not that deep” and eventually they discard you meanwhile you were only trying to build something real with them
So yes, it’s a red flag when it’s too peaceful, conflict is normal in relationships
People need to stop acting surprised when others pursue them while they are already in a relationship. Attraction does not disappear just because you are committed. Other people do not care what you and your partner are trying to build. If they want you, they will try to get you - And that exactly why it becomes your responsibility to shut the door before they ever feel welcome enough to enter. Because not replying is a choice, not entertaining is choice, not smiling back, flirting back, or allowing unnecessary closeness is a choice.
But many people leave the door slightly open because, they enjoy being desired by others while still wanting the safety of a relationship. Then they hide behind excuses like... "I was just being friendly." "I didn't want to be rude." Until the attention turns into attachment and the attachment turns into betrayal. Real loyalty is not passive... It is active discipline.
all relationships can survive mistakes, but they cannot survive patterns. Repeated behavior isn't a mistake, it's a decision, apologies lose meaning when the actions never change
You know that feeling you get when the youngest sibling texts your phone out of the blue? Like, you just know it has to do with needing something. Because you do not even expect help from them; as they do not yet possess the capacity to render any meaningful help you may need.
Yeah. Anytime you reach out to “a guy,” the same inference is often made.
Because, considering the disparity of capacity between a woman and “a guy,” help is not expected from her but needs. Sex, money.
I hope the film flops. I hope it gets 1/10 ratings everywhere. I hope the storyline is so terrible that even Mzansi Lokshion Bioskop refuses to air it. You upload it on YouTube & it struggles to hit 100 views. In fact, I hope amaphara try steal the script before you even finish shooting. Nxa