My life has completely changed in the past week in ways I could have never ever imagined. Sometimes when things don’t work out it really is cause there’s better n more genuine things for you ♥︎
I hate thinking "okay lemme show less love" "lemme not care so much." I hate that feeling. I should never have to feel that way. My purest form is loving hard, caring hard, and nurturing hard. Those are not negative.
the sexiest thing a man can do is learn you. not just love you, but understand you,know how to show up for you, recognize your silence, remember the little things, and make you feel seen. It's never about grand gestures; it's about being intentional in the ways that matter most
For any women that need to hear this, there are loving men out there. There are men who will sit and listen to you while you talk about something that bothered you. There are men out there that will take accountability and apologize. Who can be aware of their behavior and how it affected you. Men that you can grow with. Men that will make you feel appreciated. You don't have to go through years of trauma with a man who doesn't know how to communicate and has no emotional intelligence. You are worthy of healthy love. And it is out there I promise you.
normalize saying “unfortunately you’re no longer a safe person for me and I refuse to continually sacrifice my nervous system to make you feel comfortable”
Ghosting a long term romantic partner out of the blue with no closure is a cruel, abusive, toxic control tactic. It’s like making someone mourn a partner like an unexpected death instead of processing a break up, with no answers, for completely selfish reasons.
Choose people who are gentle with you. Love is an ethical practice before it’s an emotional experience. We talk so much about chemistry and attraction, but even trauma can create intense chemistry. Kindness, consistency, and care are what make love worth trusting.
I don’t think people speak enough about the quiet regret that follows after being vulnerable with someone you believed was safe. There is a particular kind of heartbreak in realising that the hands you trusted to hold your truth were the same ones that made you regret revealing it at all. It makes you mourn not only the person, but also the softness in you that trusted so openly. And perhaps that is why betrayal feels so heavy, because it teaches the heart to hesitate where it once reached naturally.
I read that it takes double the time to get over loving someone depending on how long you spent loving them. So if you loved them for the past 5 years it will take 10 years to get over them. Wtf
The older you get, the more you figure out who your real friends are. It's not always about who has known you the longest; it's about the people who show up now to make you feel seen, heard, understood, appreciated, respected, supported, and loved.