I’m at a point in my life where as long as I know I did right by you, I’m okay with walking away when something no longer works. I used to hold on longer than I should’ve because I cared, because of history, or because I wanted things to work out. But I’ve learned you can’t keep carrying relationships by yourself. If I showed up, kept it real, and did my part, that’s enough for me. Whether it’s family, friends, whoever, I don’t force what’s no longer mutual. I just leave it where it’s at and keep moving.
Sometimes you need your feelings HURT so you can finally WAKE UP and focus on YOU. Pain be tha loudest lesson. It'll snap you out that fantasy, clear your vision and remind you who you are. Everybody not meant to stay- some ppl just come to trigger your growth. 🎯
The joy in sharing the greater part of your life with someone who sees you, appreciates you, loves you in every way possible, brings out the inner child in you, yearns for you, supports you and understands you is so unmatched.
Mannnn I done gave a ngga the softest version of me...the patient me, the understanding me, the nurturing me. I loved him through his worst days, made excuses for his behavior, stood beside him when he had nothing. Just to turn around and be the one crying, confused, and drained. That's when I realized... you can be everything to the wrong person and still not be valued. Never tf again.
Behind closed doors, I've done so much for people... real help, real support, no cameras, no credit. So when my name come up, don't just run with whatever story sounds good... Tell that part too! Tell them how I showed up when I ain't even have to. Tell them how I poured into people who couldn't pour back. Tell how I stayed solid, even when it wasn't returned. Don't be quick to speak on the surface, but quiet about what really went on. Keep it real all the way or don't speak on my name at all. ‼️
I blame y’all for making niggas think all they gotta do is spend some money! Money does not make my world go round because I have my own. Are you thoughtful? Can you communicate? Emotionally intelligent? Dependable? Intentional? Honest?
Sleeping together is Not love.
Talking 24/7 is NOT love.
Laying up is NOT love.
Going on dates is NOT love.
Love is someone seeing the absolute worst side of you & still loving you the same. It's someone making stuff happen for you when you can't. It's someone holding you & calming you down while you're pouring your eyes out. It's someone voicing all the good things about you when all you see is bad. It's someone making sure you're okay, someone praying for you every day & night. It's someone that makes you laugh/ smile when you feel down.
a man gone be who he is, no matter what you bring to him. you can be beautiful, solid, have your own, carry yourself right… and still end up dealing with somebody who just not built to handle you. you can’t love a man into acting right or upgrade his mindset by being a better woman. so when he fumble you, don’t take that sht personal like you lacking… sometimes that’s just his character showing. the best thing you can do is fall all the way back and let him be exactly who he been. stop chasing, stop trying to prove your worth, stop thinking you can change the outcome. the right one not gone need to be ran down, corrected, or convinced… he gone show up right without all that.
I used to let a ngga ruin my whole day 😭 one text, one weird vibe, one dry response and now I’m irritated, overthinking, acting funny with everybody around me. Not no more 😌💯 I got too much going for myself to let somebody inconsistent throw me off balance. These bills still due, these goals still need chasing, and life STILL moving. If you care about me, move accordingly. If not? Cool. Ima still sleep good, get cute, handle business, and keep going 🤷🏽♀️ You either bring me peace, reassurance, and happiness… or you can stay where tf you at🤌🏾‼️
As a Female you Have To Learn
How To LET A NGGA MOVE ON! Dont go acting like you can't function without the ngga. If he showing you he don't want you stop reaching for him. You don't need a ngga FOR SHT You the sht babe. Let him breathe & you go do yo thang! One thing about these nggas they will always be here in the long run. Love is hard to find just let that sht come to you. Trust yourself and independency then let god handle the rest.